Lonely In A Crowded Room

My son is now 18 and hates me. I try my best and he is just do ungrateful and cold. It breaks my heart. I don't have any close friends to talk to about anything and a husband who literally ignores 90% of what I say. He will only talk to me if we are arguing or its about his job. I'm so sick and tired of feeling alone. Something needs to change and I think it starts with me starting over. I just don't know how or when.
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6 Responses Jan 24, 2013

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I read your tittle and thats exactly how I feel. Its like I am around all these people and yet; I feel as if I am on Mars.

This is just so wrong and unfair. You brought this kid to life, how could he be mean enough to hate you... Your story completely shutters my heart, for I can guess how the housewife's loneliness can feel like, and for I love my mother so much it breaks my heart when she's sad. Listen, I thought what said MetaBeta about how you should talk with your husband made a good point, you should do that in the first place. Then if you don't get better, leave maybe. For fresh air in the first place, don't know if you should leave a note on the kitchen table, depends how your family is... go to work if you have one, find one if you don't, go out with friends if you have any (internet if you don't - by the way, where do you live?), meet up with your own family if you have one (mother, father, brither, sister, anyone left you get along with). Build yourself a social life you like. And let them miss you.

Maybe you can patch things up with your son, but from what you said about your husband, I really think it's time to move on. Then again, maybe if you sat him down and talked about what you wrote here ( that you feel utterly alone and like he doesn't listen), maybe it could get better. Especially if you started off with something like ... this is not an argument in any way. I just want to talk about a few things that are really important to me. ... Try to be open and understand that he might have issues that cause him to act this way towards you. So, after you say something that you don't like ( that he doesn't listen) ask him if there is anything that bothers him. This way, he will be much more likely to take in your problems and even make an effort to change that. But, I really can't say much since I don't know the details and I'm sure it's much more complicated than that. ---- Sorry if I came off as preachy . I just want to help if I can. Good luck and I hope it all works out for you.

This I just crazy