Three years ago my ex wife left me for my best friend and told me she was embarrassed because I use a wheelchair. I can walk a little bit because I'm not paralysed, I'm just in a lot of pain which can make me feel very depressed at times but I'm not an aggressive person, I'm a strong minded person though. I decided to try a few dating sites and got a few people interested in me but I didn't write about my disability because I felt like it was a very personal thing. I have now lost count of how many women have just stopped writing to me when I tell them I use a wheelchair. There have been so many who were keen until that point. It's like I'm damaged goods. It's not like I'm a bad lover or can't perform. I have often wondered how many people truely love each other in relationships because quite a few people would leave their partners if they became disabled. It's something people should consider when making vows whether they are religious vows or promises because it could happen to anyone. I know if I met someone that at least it would filter out the selfish women so it one sense it can be positive but it doesn't get easier having to deal with the hurt I feel from being rejected! One of the sad things is I know I have a lot of good qualities and love to give but what can you do. Before I was in a wheelchair I remember seeing a beautiful woman in one and oh boy did I fancy her and no way would it have bothered me.