I Keep Too Many Things to Myself

Lack Of Trust Is A Big Part Of This

By: justmeonline

Written on April 16th, 2012

Yes, there are a lot of things about me my family don't know, my friends don't know, and even a fair few I don't even share on EP. The root of this is knowing how quick to judge many people can be, and how obnoxious they can be having made their judgements. I really have no wish to be battling with other peoples petty opinions, so I keep quiet about things I think might trouble them. Cynical, maybe, but necessary I feel.

By: justmeonline

Age: 36-40 , Male

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17 responses

papri

I'm quite the way as you tell in your story...sometimes i have so much thoughts that i feel like a 90 year old...but then i realize what's the point in telling others if they judge me or hurt me...or i burden them with my thoughts...let it be with myself...

Apr 28, 2012
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- RickiSchnucki
  That's why ep is good for people like you Papri. You can get things off your chest here. I'm quite the opposite and not everyone can stand my openness.
  
  Apr 28, 2012
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- justmeonline
  I've had times when I have been away from the EP community for long times having just been fed up with some of the things going on here and expectations of values so different from my own. I am currently having similar concerns again...
  
  Apr 28, 2012
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Knight3333

Ive always kept most things to myself but thought of it as a guy thing.

Apr 17, 2012
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- justmeonline
  Could be. There seems almost to be an expectation for us to just get things done without complaining a lot of the time.
  
  Apr 18, 2012
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sierra33

jmo, I think everybody needs to share as much as they feel comfortable with. I can share things about hubs and I's naughty times but I'll never let slip anything that could lead somebody to my door again....We all keep what we need to keep quiet.....It's sensible in a lot of ways!!

Apr 17, 2012
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- justmeonline
  Very true. I remember reading of your story a long time ago. Pretty spooky...
  
  Apr 17, 2012
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ksparrow

I don't think you are being cynical, you are just quiet. You know that old saying, "better to be quiet and thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." Thats my motto, anyway.

Apr 17, 2012
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- justmeonline
  Yes, was that Shaw or Wilde I wonder, or am I muddling things?
  
  Apr 17, 2012
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- ksparrow
  I thought someone told me once it was Abraham Lincoln, but maybe he was quoting them.
  
  Apr 17, 2012
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- justmeonline
  Wouldn't surprise me if it were Lincoln either :)
  
  Apr 18, 2012
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RickiSchnucki

I wear my heart on my sleeve and I wish I could a bit more like you.

Apr 17, 2012
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- justmeonline
  Gosh I bet it gets a fair bruising all the time. People just aren't that sensitive, whether intentionally or not, it would seem.
  
  Apr 17, 2012
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- RickiSchnucki
  I could tell you a story, I'm crying since a few days. :'-( You do better with keeping things to yourself.
  
  Apr 17, 2012
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lisa36

I used to be more open and vocal but I've learned to keep negative opinions to myself and not "cause drama" as people like to say when I'm wanting to point out something that they are doing that is hurting me. I'm fully convinced that the people in my life just want me to be pleasant all the time, and if I'm not pleasant, then it's fair game to dole out advice to me on how I should arrange my life. I didn't ask for that advice and they think they are telling me something I don't already know. It gets irritating and frustrating. So, I just don't say anything and thus no fodder for their judgement and instruction.

Apr 16, 2012
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- justmeonline
  Yes, I understand you very well, and can sense the frustration, also understandable my friend.
  
  Apr 16, 2012
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summertc

I feel you on this... It's so sad how you can never rely on people not to be so judgemental. I've learnt to get on with my life and not to busy myself giving people an explanation of who I am. I know some people might not agree but I believe sometimes it's not worth it; to be misunderstood...

Apr 16, 2012
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