Does Silence Do More Harm Than Good?

I'm a naturally quiet person. I don't feel the need to talk all the time but for some people, even my family who've known me all my life, they perceive it as anger or snobbishness.

The last few weeks have been rough. I did a rare thing, stepped outside my comfort zone and I explained to my mom after an incident why I was upset. A minor part of my frustration was with her but it was extremely minor. I thought we had everything worked out but then she got really mad at me, saying that I wasn't talking to anyone. Technically, I am...but she's still upset with me.

I'm acting perfectly normal. I can go weeks without being noticed or talked to because I'm focused on my own things, my schoolwork, hobbies, etc.

I'm worried that my silence is pushing people away. It feels natural for me to sit for an entire day outside with a book and not say a word. It feels natural to go for a ride in the car with people, watch the landscape go by and not say anything.
But I'm concerned that my silence bothers people.

Do I need to learn when to push my silence away, even though I feel more comfortable with it? Is there some way I can communicate, so other people will believe me, that I am not mad or distancing myself?

I like solitude and silence but I don't like being alienated and lonely.
runningfree2 runningfree2
22-25
2 Responses Sep 13, 2012

Am like that to and i find nothing wrong. I don't ignore people but i never make the move. i like my silence and my thoughts.Their is nothing wrong i think...is also kept me away from trouble

Well maybe you should take an interest in people and then
Conversation. Will come naturally seems you may be depressed because you seem occupied around others