I Don't Like Feeling Vulnerable

Its very hard for me to share my feelings to someone face to face. I can put it in a card, write it in a story or note but to actually look the person in the eye and say I love you or any emotion is difficult for me.

It's also very hard for me to say I am sorry. I have no probem admitting when I am wrong and saying the words but again to say it face to face is like soo hard to come past my lips and may come across insincere only because its hard for me to say but I am being sincere.
Kindal Kindal 46-50, F 7 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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I am the same. I can put it all in writing but when it comes to saying it face to face I feel as if I'll choke or pass out almost. This is my current situation with my bf atm. And I'm trying to find a way to tell him without it wearing heavy. I'm trying to figure out a way to tell him subtly.....that I'm crazy for him/he's growing on me etc. SIGHS

Thanks Brut. Thanks Gllr. I wasn't asking for a friend I just didn't understand the comment.

What I was trying to say and did mean it does take time to gain the self confidence in your self to physically speak face to face. When a person says some in a letter they do not see the reaction when the persons reads it . Then response either in a letter will take longer than face to face. As for being a friend I would like very much to be your friend, I can not force you, it is your choice. If you decide to try me as a friend and decide that I do not meet what you expect then drop me, I will understand but please tell me if you decide to drop me, so I do not accintently write to and hurt you by something I may say. Thank you in advance for a consideration as a possible friend.

I think he or she meant that asking to be your friend just because he or she read and gave a thoughtful answer to your question...I know what he or she means. The word 'Friend' means something to him or her and maybe they were just explaining why you could talk to them without the label.

Huh your not going to ask to be my friend because of a question I asked? wtf? LOL

Hi kindal,
Yes I would like to be a friend. Of yours. I just want to be bold and ask every body. But. The answer to your question is yes. I did not mean to hurt you by not asking.

I can share your same feelings. It is hard to tell some one face to face what you feel. But in a letter or email or card you can say things eaisier, because you don't have to deal with them face to face and watch there reactions to word that you would otherwise verbally would say. <br />
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I don't know the answer, Often i said something in a letter or e-mail that later on i did regret, that was taken the wrong way. <br />
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I met a girl who i did want just to be a friend, I help her when i could, but she did not understand me that i just wanted to be some one that she could talk, but she never would believe me. I just wanted to be a very tiny part of her world.<br />
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Sorry about my problems, but physical talking to a person will take time, But you have to develop a little confidence in your self and the person that you are trying to talk to. Start talking something different than feeling first and then if you can feel comfortable about that, move on very slowly. it will be hard to do, (I know that from my experience) but hopefully you can develop that confidence will develop. <br />
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I do not know you, But from what you have already have written, I DO HAVE CONFIDENCE IN YOU TO DO THE RIGHT THING. <br />
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I know that I may have not helped you much, but I am willing to help if I can. <br />
I am not going to ask you to be a friend, because i just read your question. But consider one little thing, it does some times help to talk to a stranger, who can be a little ob<x>jective and does know what it is like. <br />
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Good luck on you question and the answer if you can find one that will help you.

Hi there,
I understand how you feel, It is very difficult for me to share my feelings to others but I can say what I feel through writing. I think I'm afraid to be rejected. Some advice please to boost my confidence and open up. have a nice day.

Hi there,
I may not have the answer that you are looking, I'm not really sure there a single answer to not being rejected. I have found in my situation, the more I want to be a friend that I once cared about, the more she hates me, because she will never accept that all I want is to be a friend that she talk to about anything. I don't care was it is, even if it about why she hates me so much.
I wish I had an answer for you, but if you ever want to just talk, I am here for you. I may be a bit old, but I can be a friend who will not judge you. Please try to have a nice day and smile if you can bring yourself to it. That might help a bit. Who knows we may be able each other. Try a smile at least one a day, or mischievous smile, that will get people wondering what you are really up to. Good luck

You sound like some one who trusted love and got burnt, you now find it hard to get close to anyone face to face.You sound like you are sincere,and maybe you just need a friend that you can talk to. I would love to be that friend to you,Please add me and lets talk pretty lady. :)