I Used To Give People Chances But Now I Know Better...

In the past, I always gave people the benefit of the doubt that the messed up way they were treating me was somehow something they didn't really mean and that they were so very sorry. What a joke! When people are mean, it is just that, and they don't deserve to be in my life. For example, I let a girlfriend of mine stay in my home for a year and a half. At first she didn't have a job, so I let her slide with sharing in the cost of the rent, and I basically paid all the bills and bought the food. Once she got a job, she gave me some money. Over time, there was always one excuse or another about why she couldn't give me money. She started staying out for days at a time, and I found out she would spend her entire paycheck doing so, leaving me without any money for the rent or electric bills. I also felt sorry for her when she couldn't pay her phone bill, so I let her go on my account so it would cut the costs for both of us by sharing the bill. Of course, she eventually stopped paying me for that too and overused our minutes by $160. Needless to say, I shut off her phone, eliminated her from my account, and now I am kicking her out of my place. The only problem is she won't leave because she says she can't find a place to stay that she can afford. So now she is gone somewhere, but all of her stuff is still piled up in a mountain in the corner of my bedroom. If she doesn't get her stuff out soon, I think I'm going to either donate it to good will, or sell it on Ebay!