New to the lesbian community. I was with men all my life, til now, I found myself poundering what was missing in my life. It took 31 years for me to find this out, but I had to dearch my soul, my heart, and everything that I wanted. To do this I need to be alone, needed to be without anyone at all. I have only been with one women and remain in that relationship. It is the best thing that ever happened to me, but I was scared to come OUT. I have 2 children and that was hard to handle as they are 11 and 13 both boys, but I brought them up to love anyone as long as they where happy. When I first kissed this women that I want to spend the rest of my life with, I knew right then and there that I wanted to be with her no mater what was thrown my way. I have lost people in my life because of my choice, but I am the one who has to be happy, and take ownership for my life. You may feel that there is something missing in your life, and it could by just curiousity, so make sure you know that you are doing, because you never no who you may hurt. It has been years to fight for the legal rights to be with alternative sexes, and those who have fought, fought hard, lost allot. but are happy and proud.

LadyDove LadyDove
7 Responses Feb 14, 2009

I've always thought of myself as bisexual. I dated women and men until I married. He knew of my need to be with a woman, and was ok with it. When we had children I repressed that need somewhat, but I found myself seeking out anything lesbian related. Then I met someone I wanted to date, the first in over 10 years. My husband was ok with it.
I felt the need to be with her so strong, craving her presence. I new quite early that this time is wasn't just fun..... The chemistry undeniable, But there was more.....
I knew I should stop this fling there and then, but my marriage ended 4 years ago for me, we reconciled after 18 months, but it our marriage was too broken to fix. I told her one night about how unhappy I was and how I was just waiting for one more financial disasters or massive lie.
I spoke of how I was planning to leave anyway. Then the event that was the turning point for me. He agreed to a divorce and He packed his things and left.
I'm still dating my woman and I know that although most of my friend know I like girls.... Telling them I'm a lesbian and in love with a woman, is something I worry about.
I need to be out and proud

My friend just left me to "figure this out". I am so scared I'm going to lose her. I'm glad you two made it.

I was 36 when I first allowed myself to give in to my desires of being with another woman. I am not out yet but have a circle of friends who know I like women. I am married though to a guy and dont want to hurt him, but I cheat on him with women. I admire you for following your heart hun xxx

Thank you. I greatly appreciate the encouragement, I do however keep to myself pretty much as the Drama is worse than in a men and women relationship.

I was almost 30 when I came to the same realisation. Welcome home Sis.

Thank you for your encouragement

Nothing worth having is ever easy. Life is to short to be unhappy.