The Switch

Hi amysangels

Good luck with that. The Switch is great for deciding and after do not revisit the decision just go look at The Switch.

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i ll try throw away the switch for something too..

Hi iamworkingonit

Funny that about the exams. I always used to enjoy exams and disassociate from the results. I like the idea of having already aced the exam and just had to study to get there - that's the ticket! You have great visualization skills! I like the idea of you and ex-wife being friends. If you know and share what you want the outcome to be then it is more likely you achieve that outcome. This a BIG lesson to learn!

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Hi endlessgrief

I hope it is useful. I like the idea of The Mind creating it's own management structures. Our minds and our shared solutions.

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I used to teach and I always ased students to picture themselves walking out of the exam in a good mood.



One of the things I asked them to do was to hold a clear mental picture of what they felt like (elated), what clothes they were wearing and who they would talk to as they exitied the exam.



Then I used to ask...how do we get from there to here. When the going got tough the mental picture provided motivation. In some ways, they had already aced the exam and just had to go through the studying to get there.



Am visualising myself now as to where I want to be this time next year with my seperation behind me, divorce paperwork pending and myself and ex-wife remaining good friends.

Hi ResidualEnergy

The Switch a way to focus intention and then can do what you really want. Let us know if it works or anything to add.

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Hi TheOnlyConstantHasChanged

not read Sword of Truth, by Terry Goodkind but will look into it. Visualization seems a good way of creating a useful mental structure. Hope helps.

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Hi iamworkingonit

It is all out there hey! I have eclectic sources for sure and NLP is around too. Add any ideas you have just trying to get something that works.

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NLP works for me. and had a session with (soon-to-be) ex-wife on this yesterday.



We are much calmer today but great advice. In NLP there is an idea of subconcious programming...I have a keyword instead of a switch and focus on that if feelings start to overwhelm me. That said, a ggod cry helps too.

Hi Hell0World

Yours is a great test of this idea but really multiple areas of binge behavior is no problem. Just sort all out at once - really!

well you are not alone in that! if you think about it this is a logical result of not having self-discipline. Everything that is nice will get binged on! Why not? Well mainly cost to health and pocket! Could even cost you your life!

You appear to have got half of the way out of your situation. You see it is a self control issue and not a food problem. That is good. The good news is you can eat what you want in the future and not get fat. Of course you have to eat nutritious food in a healthy way. The problem you will face is how to eat all the food you want in a day!It sounds odd but once you gain self control there is too much food to eat! However hard you try.

So to the bit you do n ot get yet. Visualization is a powerful technique like self hypnosis. It uses your own mind to manage your own behavior. Your mind is very powerful. It just is. People do the most amazing things! So you simply visualize a switch which appeals to you. You imagine placing the switch in your mind. Like an operation without surgery. That switch is then your decision switch. It is your own property. You have to want to have self control. This switch has to be important to you. Then you decide in your own time and way to exercise self control. Do not do it now if you do not want. Wait a day or two or a decade or two. When you are ready say I am going to use my self control switch. When you flip the switch you are done. Alcohol is a little different because when under the influence you loose self control more. perhaps best to have a dry period or even give up. Anyway food and cigarettes are more straightforward. See my story and other people's notes but what you do is be aware of what you are eating. Writing down what you eat each day on a pad is a good way of making yourself aware. Look at it after and reflect maybe eating wrong food if not loosing weight. Do it calmly and do not play games like saying I have lost control now so I may as well binge. Just accept any slip ups and refocus on your self control. You get your mind off food or cigarettes by putting it on what you want. Health, wealth, just a sense of being an adult with self control. Obviously if you do not wish to stop binge eating or smoking this will n it help but of you do it solves your problem.

kkev315 used the term "operational modes" which refers to what you are doing here by using The Switch. You are using your own mind to help you like Judo uses the opponent's weight and momentum against them.

Best wishes - if I have not explained it right yet tell me and I will do so.

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Hi Hell0World

well you are not alone in that! if you think about it this is a logical result of not having self-discipline. Everything that is nice will get binged on! Why not? Well mainly cost to health and pocket! Could even cost you your life!

You appear to have got half of the way out of your situation. You see it is a self control issue and not a food problem. That is good. The good news is you can eat what you want in the future and not get fat. Of course you have to eat nutritious food in a healthy way. The problem you will face is how to eat all the food you want in a day!It sounds odd but once you gain self control there is too much food to eat! However hard you try.

So to the bit you do n ot get yet. Visualization is a powerful technique like self hypnosis. It uses your own mind to manage your own behavior. Your mind is very powerful. It just is. People do the most amazing things! So you simply visualize a switch which appeals to you. You imagine placing the switch in your mind. Like an operation without surgery. That switch is then your decision switch. It is your own property. You have to want to have self control. This switch has to be important to you. Then you decide in your own time and way to exercise self control. Do not do it now if you do not want. Wait a day or two or a decade or two. When you are ready say I am going to use my self control switch. When you flip the switch you are done. Alcohol is a little different because when under the influence you loose self control more. perhaps best to have a dry period or even give up. Anyway food and cigarettes are more straightforward. See my story and other people's notes but what you do is be aware of what you are eating. Writing down what you eat each day on a pad is a good way of making yourself aware. Look at it after and reflect maybe eating wrong food if not loosing weight. Do it calmly and do not play games like saying I have lost control now so I may as well binge. Just accept any slip ups and refocus on your self control. You get your mind off food or cigarettes by putting it on what you want. Health, wealth, just a sense of being an adult with self control. Obviously if you do not wish to stop binge eating or smoking this will n it help but of you do it solves your problem.

:)Hi kkev315

I have not heard the term "operational modes"

You are right, it is a self control problem and not a binge eating problem because yes, food is good! lol. Ahh I see! So its like a light switch and I just turn it on and I have to do something. The thing that I would be doing is what?? What do I do to get my mind off of it? Unfortunately for me, I do have a lot of self control problems, you name it: smoking, drinking, eating.

Hi life4theliving

that is an automatic power down. The Switch I am talking about here is a positive refocussing of attention onto being decisive. I do know the auto power down though for sure. Survival has its own logic hey?

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Hi life4theliving

I suggest a switch because it is a visual representation of a decision made. Could be a fried egg! Sunny side up? Anything! Be sure you not close the door to emotions - switching off emotional responses can be a prison as well as a relief. Just sayin'! Do not mistake The Switch for The Door!

Thanks made me think!

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Hi endlessgrief

works for anything! The only requirement is that you want to stop whatever it is. The Switch helps with decision keeping not decision taking. If you want to do something then nothing can stop you. If you do not want to do something then by focussing on your wish to be in control of yourself will reinforce your determination making it easier. Hope explanation helps.

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Hi everton13

Thanks. I am learning all the time. Any ideas let me know/

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I actually believe in visualisation techniques.

Hi kkev315

I have not heard the term "operational modes" before but will check it out. The mind is so capable and I am sure that a small change of focus does divert attention elsewhere. Like being on ep for hours and realizing you have not eaten for hours or even thought of it! Easy! I am glad you like it. I would like to gather together all sorts of such ideas for people to use. Any ideas?

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Hi HeartOnnaLiveWire

The idea of this switch is to focus on your self control rather than whatever it is you want to stop doing. If you fixate on stopping smoking then smoking is always on your mind and grows stronger making it ever harder to give up. So yes you can use this switch for anything!

chat here or in private messages to me if I can help. Best wishes!

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I think I'm gonna try this...I have a lot of switches to flip,lol.So you say it can work with anything?Please let Me know,Either here or in private message.God bless(:

Hi moxiespirit

It does seem to create a positive feedback loop doesn't it? The more you focus on self control the more powerful you are and the less you fixate on the issue the less powerful that is!

Hope it is useful to you! Pass it on!

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Your comment to musicspirt brought this concept together for me. Revisiting the decision switch instead of the decision itself breaks the circuit. Creates a feeling of relief seeing the switch is set to off.

Hi musicspirt

It is not a procrastination switch. You could use it to stop procrastinating but not by flicking the switch alone. What you would need to do is decide that procrastination was not something you wanted to do. Then use the switch to reinforce making the decision. When you found yourself about to procrastinate rather than go into that loop revisit the decision switch. See it is set to do not procrastinate and move on with making your decision clearly and directly. Live your life as if your hair is on fire!

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Hi musicroxyou

Thanks for your comment. I think it a simple and useful idea too. Hope it helps

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This is very accurate, in my opinion.

I've heard of visualisation techniques before, but haven't really given them a try. Maybe I will since you say it has helped you. Now, let's see if I can stop procrastinating by flicking my "procrastination switch" :)



Hypnosis has always intrigued me. What is it exactly? It does appear to be very effective though.

Hi justmeonline

I have probably built it up from a variety of sources. Visualization is a powerful mechanism. The thing I like about it is you own it yourself and it constantly reinforces your own self control. It is a positive Feedback Loop! Glad you liked it. :)

I have found use of hypnosis over a period of time can be helpful in breaking patterns. The switch idea seems similar to some NLP techniques and I'm sure it could be helpful for some people. Thanks for that.