My Ex-girlfriend Hurt My Feelings Deliberately

I know that guys can hurt girls, too.  So if you're a girl reading this, I hope you can relate to it.  Just flip the genders around in the story.

 

My son's mother always told me she loved me, and wanted to stay with me forever.  I guess it's ok to say these things and not really mean it, because she decided to change her mind about these things when she was three months pregnant with our child.  Forget trying to get to know me better and build a solid relationship or marriage to her baby's dad.  Nah, no big deal.  But cutting me out of her life was the least of it.  She went out of her way to flaunt all the other guys in her life to me.  One day she asked me if I wanted to go with her to her ultrasound appointment.  I said sure, I would love to go and see my unborn child in her.  I knew that the relationship was over, but I figured it would just be her and me going to the doctor as the baby's parents.  Well, when she came to pick me up, I wedged myself into the cluttered back seat.   Her boyfriend at the time got the front seat, bless his heart.  How nice of him to accompany us.  And I'm glad that she (Julie) remembered to ask the doctor, right in front of me, what kind of birth control was best once the baby was born and she was breastfeeding.

 

She sent another boyfriend into where I work to threaten me a couple of weeks after my son was born.  I had made a comment to someone about my son's low birthweight, compared to his mother's size.  She was 5'10" and weighed over 200 lbs.  So I was told by this mature gentleman to "shut up or I'll come back, and you won't like that".  This guy had no job and no car, so she drove him there to come in and threaten me.

 

Any visits that I made to see my son were as uncomfortable as Julie could make them for me.  Anything I said was "rude" or "racist".  From calling dwarves "dwarves" to comments about my job or anything else.  All this while her live-in boyfriend drank beer and smoked cigarettes with my child support debit card.

 

I could go on and on.  To cut this story short, I'll just say this:  I'm done.  Done with asking women out, done with seeing my son (that's what I said, haters) and done with any hope of ever finding someone to care about me like I deserve.  I came to this conclusion recently after asking a female out on a date the other day:  she told a friend of mine, "He's old and has a child.  I can't see going out with him".  All I ever wanted to do was just stay with the mother of my child and build a lifetime together.  But she screwed me out of any chance for that happening, and she knows it.  And she enjoys knowing what she's done.  Oh, well.

Steveincolumbus Steveincolumbus
41-45
5 Responses Mar 12, 2010

Your son should have nothing to do it with. She may be a loser but that makes you a loser dad

My girlfriend did the same to me. It hurts, but that passes. Get your son man. Teach him to not let it happen to him. Fight back, in a healthy, legal way. You can do this.

i agree with the person above me. DONT GIVE UP ON YOUR SON!!!! who cares about women or love right now?! YOU SON SHOULD BE YOUR TOP PRIORITY. get a good lawyer and get your son back (it'll be easy for you since your ex is having an affair with a fu'ck up..) HELP HIM. he NEEDS you in his life.

i agree with the person above me. DONT GIVE UP ON YOUR SON!!!! who cares about women or love right now?! YOU SON SHOULD BE YOUR TOP PRIORITY. get a good lawyer and get your son back (it'll be easy for you since your ex is having an affair with a fu'ck up..) HELP HIM. he NEEDS you in his life.

Thank you for the comments, nomomisery.