Goodbye Lola

You've shown me a new way to look at life. You loved me even when I was an ugly duckling. I remember putting up with all the awful clothes you used to bring back from the homeland. But you were so proud of bringing them over for me that I would wear them (and try not to complain).

Lolo used to be so proud I was American. But you were so willing to show me part of my history back home. I have so many fond memories when you two used to rent that cramped beach apartment. Every Sunday, my parents would take me to see you for hours. I remember we stopped going to church and spent time with you and Lolo instead. Part of me was kind of glad and another part of me was pondering. Something about the world you showed me was like a chapel. Love, education, culture, loyalty, acceptance...and joy.

You never pushed these views on me. You just lived them. Quiet and smiling. Warm and kind. I learned through you that examples are far better than preaching. I miss your "smelling kisses". They were so strange and foreign when I was young yet as an adult I would start smiling because they were the best kisses a grandma could ever give. And the happy "mmmmwwweee!" noise you always made after. It was so funny. And so jovial. You were the ideal grandma that people read about in stories. Thank you for loving me.

I love you Lola. I know you're in Heaven with Lolo now. I miss you both and thank you for the strength and wisdom you've given me so I can move forward with my life. Knowing you, my life is richer.

Tekkamaki Tekkamaki
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15 Responses Feb 12, 2009

And many many hugs back Hal! Thank you.

hi tekkamaki... loss is always hard. especially love ones.. i have lost too. my very best regards to you. Many Many Hugs*

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Oh Dee. You were absolutely wonderful when my maternal grandmother passed last summer. I remembered what you told me. And yet again, you have more wonderful words. Thank you. ((Hugs!))

((Hugs)) Tekka. You will miss her, but she will always be with you. I lost my grandma a year and a half ago, and I still feel her spirit with me at times when I really need her. This is a beautiful tribute to her. I'm happy she made such a difference in your life :)

Andrew- That is so cute! But I'm sure to him it is serious business. ; )<br />
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Fasterpussycat- Thank you for your kind words. I do wish there was more I could do as she was an amazing woman.<br />
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EP Arsineh- Yes! I do feel very blessed for knowing them! Most kids want to have those warm loving arms that are always waiting, always open. That was them. They were...are...truly beautiful people. Thank you.

I'm sorry for your loss but believe you were quite fortunate to have these two incredibly loving people in your life. Thank you for sharing this story with us.

What a wonderful tribute to your grandmother :)

Ha, sometimes I don't feel qualified either! I wonder if I'm even giving my daughter anything "accurate" Ha ha! I have a terrible southern belle accent, it's really awful. <br />
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Oh my gosh...he sounds adorable! Those were the kids in my family that got the extra presents on holidays too. Seriously, that's smart!<br />
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It's funny that I actually know who Kris Aquino is and I don't have the Filipino channel here. I remember watching Rosalinda overseas...they loved that show. Everyone in the village used to pack in one house when it came on.

Oh I understand completely. My dad raised us all to be American. But I felt very out of place until I was 20 and went to the Philippines. It felt so rich and cultured...so much like home to me. <br />
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It's wonderful you're encouraging a little culture into his young life. It's pretty cool that he can do all of that at so young! He must impress the elders, huh? <br />
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My daughter is learning about different cultures too. She's actually interested in speaking Mandarin and Chinese culture. But she's very attached to my mom. They have such a strong bond. She's from Guam. So she's also interested in the Island cultures, hula dancing (awww! So cute!), and anything and everything about Grandma! Ha!<br />
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I know my daughter and my mom share the same deep love I shared with my Lola. And I'm also glad that my mom is very attached to her homeland, her culture. So she can share it with the little one.<br />
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Ha! I love those kisses! Thank you again Andrew! <br />
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Awww...they didn't want me to do mano po. I asked because it was always soooo fascinating. My father did towards my maternal grandmother. But my lolo and lola (dad's uncle and aunt) were so close in age that he just called them Tito and Tia, was very informal. <br />
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I've always wanted to include that in my own family though...I just don't know where...I've asked my dad if he wants the grandchildren to practice it and he feels awkward. I think he's lived in the United States for too long, maybe?<br />
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Ah but I don't mind remembering. I love remembering these things. She was one of the links to my history. She was very proud while everyone else wanted to be 100% American. I don't think I have a single memory of her that doesn't make me smile. Almost every memory is happy! : )

^_^ Warm fuzzies!

Thanks SHC. ^_^<br />
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I just kind of imagined if her spirit was in front of me, what I would say. I just wish I could say it in Tagalog.

Thank you Eric. At first I was very broken. She meant the world to me. But I'm glad that she was in my life. I feel lucky...blessed. In a way, I'm happy she's reunited with Lolo after ten years of being apart.

I am so sorry for your loss, but so impressed on your outlook. <br />
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Tek, owns as usual. :)