I Now Know This To Be Generally TrueIt was only when I got the job which I now currently hold that I began to understand this.
I'll start from the beginning. When I was a child growing up in the US I had trouble with girls. Simply that nobody was interested or if they were interested it was very few and far between.
Then one day I had my first real girlfriend in middle school. It was a blonde girl. Once I remember she kissed me while we were waiting for the school bus and out of nowhere comes a comment from another girl, "oohh gross you're kissing that chinese guy". Not long after this incident she broke up with me.
I attended high school in Middlesex, England. Things were not much different there either. By this time I was starting to think that there was actually something wrong with me. I thought it was because I didn't dress well or it was my hair or how I walked or talked. It got so bad that I became very very meticulous about my appearance and this stays with me even today.
I went back to the US and time passed. I was still experiencing more of the same issue. Few caucasian women are going to be interested in bringing an asian guy home to meet their parents and so what is the point of dating them? By this time I had got out of college and was in the Army and had come to new conclusions. I had decided that the reason I was having a hard time was because women and money went hand in hand.
Around the time that I was approaching 30 I came across a job opportunity which practically put me square into the middle class. I was single, extremely meticulous about my appearance (as I stated before), and had money. I started travelling everywhere and this is when I discovered something very profound.
When I went to Hong Kong, Bangkok, or practically any area with a disproportionate amount of asians I felt as if suddenly women were just so easy to meet. I actually got noticed when I said hello and it was as if before I had even asked if they wanted to meet up later they had already asked. I'm not saying I'm some sort of Don Juan of asian women. I'm only saying that it was sooooo much easier for me there.
Then I let this go to my head and just a few days ago came back from a vacation in Spain. I thought that I would try there the way I tried in Asia. I even can speak Spanish quite well. I cannot say that nobody was interested in me. I did get a few smiles and even one kiss but it was nothing like in Asia. Actually, generally speaking I was actually pretty lonely throughout the whole trip. I felt just like I did in England and America.
So yes. White women REALLY don't like asian guys in general. It is not because they are afraid we don't like them or because asian guys are too shy to ask them out. It's just that they don't like us in general. It's that simple...
I think it has a LOT to do with the way we are portrayed in the media as kung fu masters, nerds, weaklings, and weirdos. This is actually sort of self fullfilling. It is because of the way the media portrays asian males that people treat us the way they do and as a result I became a weirdo because my development of social interaction with the opposite sex was constricted.
Now I'm 30. I think if I am ever interested in having a "stag" night. I'll go over to Asia and if I have to be in the west, well then I guess I'll just hire a prostitute and save myself the time and effort of scaling the high walls of racism and rejection.