A Lifetime Sentence

I am generally respectful to all persons in regards to their choices in life, but when you hurt an innocent child who hasn’t even had a chance to live yet I can’t give you much respect.  I do agree that a man or woman should not be labeled a “*********” without due process of law, but once that happens I truly believe that he or she should be punished severely for the actions that they have taken.  I don’t speak lightly on this subject because I am a survivor, and one of the lucky few that was able to overcome that horrible time in my life to be able to live a productive adult life.  Many of those that are sexually abused NEVER escape the hell. NEVER, these children’s minds are imprisoned forever with no chance of parole.  If they have no opportunity of parole from their cell, then why should their attacker ever get parole?

If we, as a whole ,take the position that we are going to rehabilitate these persons and put them back on the street then there is no example in that and more persons will act out their fantasy with our nations most precious commodity, our children. 


Roughly 33% of girls and 14% of boys are molested before the age of 18, according to the U.S. Justice Department. Nearly 2/3 of all sexual assaults reported, involved minors and roughly 1/3 involved children under the age of 12. In most cases, however, child molestation goes unreported. Estimates are that only 35% of sexual abuse is reported. Kids can be frightened or embarrassed and many times do not say anything.


There are 400,000 registered sex offenders in the United States, and an estimated 80 to 100,000 of them are missing. They're supposed to be registered, but we don't know where they are and we don't know where they're living or if they are molesting more children.  Is the current parole process working?  I think not!


A BJS Survey of State prison inmates revealed that 1 in 5 violent offenders serving time in a state prison reported having victimized a child.  That is 20% people, but we shouldn’t be mad and respect these individuals for their choices.  In this same study 3 in 10 child victimizers, (and pedophiles are NOT victims, they are victimizers, ) reported that they had committed their crimes against multiple victims: they were more likely than those who victimized adults to have had multiple victims, with the normal victimizer beginning their behavior at age 15 and victimizing somewhere between 40 to 60 child victims before they are caught and prosecuted.  The average ********* destroys the lives of 117 girls/boys in their lifetime if not caught.


So can these persons be rehabilitated?  Possibly they can, but the statistics show otherwise.  Let the punishment fit the crime.  The ********* was the judge, jury, and executioner in the child’s affairs when he/she molested them sentencing them to a life locked behind the prison the ********* created in their mind, so therefore in my opinion they should at minimum be forced to live out their life in one of our prisons without the possibility of EVER being paroled.  I also think that part of their punishment should be that they have to work in some capacity in the prison system and that all revenue they earn would go to a Child Advocate organization that helps children to overcome these heinous crimes.


fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
46-50, F
23 Responses Mar 8, 2009

np, thanks for having an open mind and being willing to read my point of view. As I told you on my PM I am very open minded and I do think that some persons, including myself read things into your post because of the choice of wording that was used.

Thanks Fungirl. I read your post and your topic. <br><br><br />
This isn't an example of one the hysterical reactions I was referring to in my post. I think you make some good points. The finding of "markers" is particularly good - this is the sort of research that should be being done, this could help prevent future abuse maybe. I wonder how many other studies are going on on how to prevent future abuse?<br><br><br />
I had a feeling that there was a bit more chance of rehabilitation that you and the other commentators seem to think- but I haven't done much research on that, just reading about a programme her in Melbourne run by a local nun, and readinb about a centre that was shut down in UK. I can't remember many details of these though.<br><br><br />
I have read that in comparison to other offending, child abusers have a high chance of reoffending, so this does necessitate a different approach, I agree.<br><br><br />
Again, I think it's great what you are doing. You are living proof that the abuser doesn't always have the power to ruin a life through their selfish actions. Keep on keeping on. <br><br><br />
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Scary stuff! thanks for sharing.

Wow Leiza.. they shot them in Germany?

Where I komme from back in the 30tys und 40tys, there were no one in jail for this ...they were shot with out much of a trial

They certainly do Student. There was a study done recently that I have just started researching, but some of the information is fascinating. They are researching exactly the topic you bring up, preventing the abuser from becoming the abuser. They are identifying common characteristics and markers of convicted abusers, and at the same time using those character traits while studying adolescents. I am not finished reading the data, but it is interesting how they are able to detail the potential of abuse in teenagers and young adults based on the known markers. Maybe someday!

UC, I agree that there is little to no hope for rehabilitation. It is so sad that we can't totally eradicate this. One hurt child is one too many and my heart breaks when I see it on TV or here even rumor of it.

Thanks sweetie. I may do that.

Extremely well said and I have a opinion for you, try modifying this article a little and hitting the press with it? Sometimes even a small spark can take to a big fire. Just sometimes it happens.

TY Kinda! I love you dude and miss you so much.<br />
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Mewold, I love to play doctor these days. <br />
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DB, it is crazy

The guy here recently tried to abduct a woman, a customer from our store, in the parking lot in broad daylight at 1 in the afternoon. So many of my co-workers are women, out of about 40 employees only 10 are men, and many of them go to their cars to eat lunch and take their breaks, admittedly, if I had a car I would probably be one of them. This could have been someone I know, work with, in a couple of weeks when I have a car, it could have been me. Why was this man out and allowed to roam free, clearly he was not rehabilitated and I've really not heard anything about them even trying to before releasing him. He did his sentenced time, and was released, with no thought of what he might do or try to do after that. Is no one thinking?

Who came up with these laws? Unless you can prove beyond a shadow of a doubt that an offender has been rehabilitated how, who in their right mind would let them back out on the street? It makes no sense, I know many things in our justice system are flawed but seriously? this is the worst in my opinion.

YOY, Great comments dear. I love you and I am always here for you.<br />
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DB, I found out, after he died, that my molester had at least two other victims that I knew. It is a shame that we just let them get by with a few years in prison.<br />
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Thanks Chris. I love you sweetie.<br />
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MT, everyone should be checking that monthly bc it is constantly changing as their lease is up and they keep moving around.

I totally agree with you, fungirlmmm. I will admit then I was about 4 or 5, my cusin and I, (a girl), played doctor. It was a kid's exploration of curiosity. Somehow, I ended up being the patient so I guess she explored more than I did. This was an innosent thing and no harm done. But this is not what you are talking about. I totally agree with you.

Excellent post, as usual. Now, if only we can get authorities around the world to see things the way we do then we would have gone a long way in doing something about all the countless lives that have been destroyed thus far by an epidemic.

I found it when I was wondering about where I live and what kind of nasty there is around. It is good to know.

Excellent post FG!

I agree, whether or not they can be rehabilitated is questionable at best and many experts agree it's a lost cause. Personally I think all inmates need to perform some sort of work to help defer the cost of keeping them there but I also like the idea of in these cases the efforts going to help the victims. It's a sad state of affairs, our current system isn't working, sex offenders are free and roaming. We recently had an issue here where an offender was out and he attempted to abduct 2 women, one in the parking lot of my place of employment, before he successfully abducted a 3rd. He was caught two days later, but he has a long history of sex offences and most agree he shouldn't have been out in the first place. He's being charged with these crimes, he will undoubtedly be convicted, but how long will they keep him this time? It's a flawed system.

Flutter, That is so appalling that he could continually have access to victims. Thanks for your comments here and on the other story.<br />
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MT, Thanks sweetheart. I never will forget going on to a similar site a few years ago and finding my parent's neighbor on it. The landlord had no clue the man was a registered sex offender and that was his excuse. At that time there were somewhere around 5 to 6 dozen minors living in that neighborhood. They still come to my mom and dad's house to play basketball because we had a court growing up and it is still there. He had perfect access to get his jollies with those kids. UNACCEPTABLE.

I completely agree with you. Recovering after being sexually abused wasn't an easy thing to do. My life was ruined for years and years and years, and any form of abuse makes me so angry. Pedophiles take advantage of children. They destroy entire lives. I know people who work with child advocacy organizations and/or with law enforcement, and they all say the same thing that you are saying. I too don't believe that they can be rehabilitated.

We seem to have to police ourselves and our neighbors.<br />
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I have this site.<br />
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Thanks HMDF. I appreciate your comments.

Well said.