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I Lack Self-confidence And I Seriously Need Some Help

So this is my story...
I am soon to be 18.. I was a fat kid and my friends has always been slim and gorgeous, something I never contributed to myself. I was a really shy person, I stood in the corner for the bigger part of my life.. and now I am 18.. I have lost a lot of pounds since then, but I am still fat.. okay I am more like an average person with a bit more weight.. the thing is, my childhood affected me a lot.. I still have trouble accepting the fact that I am changed, and I still think that I am ugly and fat. I even did the worst possible thing, became bulimic.. I stopped on time though, so nothing to worry about. But the problem still exist.. I can't change the way I think about myself. Tonight two guys approached me, and although I didn't show it, I thought that they wanted to mock me. I mean, I know it's probably not true, but how can I change the way I think? 
Don't tell me to read books, I think that I have read most of them. Actually, if you know any good, tell me... Psychologist is out of picture for now, for at least a year. So any way I can become better? I am sick and tired of thinking low of myself, I know that I don't deserve it. And I seriously thought that I overcame that problem, but tonight I proved myself wrong. I need HELP! Please, give me some advice...
I will be forever grateful..
SpiritScarlet SpiritScarlet 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 23, 2011

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do not belittle yourself.try to find a talent.i am fat and my body is not that good but i have a talent and you have a talent do not be pessimistic.think highly of yourself.do not be affected by appearances do not be affected by what stupid others say be affected by your good opinion about your lovely self

Its not easy to explain this in a comment but just realize your opinion is the only one that matters when it comes to yourself. If you can't be confidence and appreciate yourself who else will?



Its harsh but sometimes you gotta be! Don't expect anyone to think highly of you if you don't think highly of yourself in the first place! Your beautiful, everyone is, the hard part is admitting to yourself your a beautiful person. Once you realize that you'll lose your anxiety and stop caring so much about others.



Hold your chin up and fuckk anyone who makes you doubt yourself, makes you feel uncomfortable or who doesn't want to see the very very best for you. You deserve much more then you give yourself credit for.



And for the record, I'm "fat' too, and I ******* love it!

hi.. actually i am fat too.. now i am over weight but thankful because at least i am not obese. i know being fat is another factor why i do lack of self confidence. If you want do you like to be with me to battle this fight?

The first thing i do.. if you do like to do this too just go.. its better to try that nothing right?

i take a piece of paper and list of the things that i can be proud of. or things to be thank ful for...

example.. 1. i am still alive and still fighting..

2. i able to think of something to make other at least notice the beauty inside me.



browse the net and look for people(especial people) i am talking to those people who have the worse problem than you have... like someone who is 16 years old and discovered to have cancer to the bone and the dr, says that he needs to amputate the left leg...something like that...(actually i really met one)



actually.. the first thing we need to learn is to love ourselves. because we cant be loved by others if don't love ourselves.

See i feel tat all u need is to imagine a character near u.A character whom u really luv to be with.For Eg.An Actor.....somebody like tat...just imagine tat he is rite near u n is always admirin yo beauty n appreciatin u on yo efforts u've takin to reduce yo weight....n he's ready to give u THE WORLD"S TIGHTEST HUG wen u need one :).....tatsit , ul easily come out of it :)....STRONGLY BELIEVE TAT YO MOST LOVED ONE IS RITE NEAR U AND HE AHAS NO OTHER WORK OTHER THAN ADMIRIN U :).....ul live life with loads of happiness....GOD BLESS SWEETHEART :)

Its a common problem for all not only you.That time dont loose yourself in front of others.Think that u are the best compare with others.No one come with experience.So Dont compare your self to others. Be yourself live for yourself. Dont care about anybody what they think about you and dont feel that whole world looking at you nu.Just be a casual and speak right way........That will make you perfect.. all the best.....Rajesh.

Its a common problem for all not only you.That time dont loose yourself in front of others.Think that u are the best compare with others.No one come with experience.So Dont compare your self to others. Be yourself live for yourself. Dont care about anybody what they think about you and dont feel that whole world looking at you nu.Just be a casual and speak right way........That will make you perfect.. all the best.....Rajesh.

Its a common problem for all not only you.That time dont loose yourself in front of others.Think that u are the best compare with others.No one come with experience.So Dont compare your self to others. Be yourself live for yourself. Dont care about anybody what they think about you and dont feel that whole world looking at you nu.Just be a casual and speak right way........That will make you perfect.. all the best.....Rajesh.