Is It Too Good To Be True?

I am young, in fact im in high school. I have been dating this guy for 5 months and everyday he calls and tells me he loves me. We have spent a lot of time together and we never do things with out each other. Lately he has been doing other things. Im not sure what because he wont tell me but we hvent been hanging out as much or going and doing things together. Its really upsetting me because I really do love him alot. I do realize I am young and I might not be with him forever. But its as if. I don't want to let go because im so attached to him for some reason. Im not sure if its the sex which is great ha or if its the way he treats me or if its because he is just my first love. I don't know what to say to him what to do or if I should continue loveing him the way I do. Someone please help me.
SorryImNotPerfect SorryImNotPerfect
18-21, F
2 Responses May 23, 2012

Hang on. You're panicking because he isn't spending every moment with you? I mean, he's your boyfriend sure, but he needs to have his own life. You two aren't glued at the hip. He doesn't have to always be around, if he was, you two would have already split up due to a lack of anything new to talk about.<br />
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I can tell you right now that you won't be with him forever, no matter how much you two "love" each other right now. Why? You have to ask the internet for help in fixing your relationship rather than thinking & working through it yourself, you want to ditch him cause he might not be spending as much time with you, it bothers you that he isn't glued to your hip as much, and you seem like you're basing some of the quality of the relationship ba<x>sed upon the sex. You clearly aren't mature enough at present moment to form the basis of a relationship that could last for a long time. <br />
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Does that mean you should ditch him and run off? No, it means you need to not ba<x>se you're entire happiness off of him, but enjoy the relationship while it lasts.

Hmm. It's complicated. It could be a bad sign - it was with my first love. But it could just be that the "honey moon" phase is over and he just wants some space. All I can say is sit him down and tell him why you're worried. You're obviously a smart girl, you'll know if he's not telling you the truth. Unfortunately, the hard part might be listening to yourself. I didn't want to believe, so I didn't, and I got crushed. So follow your instincts but really listen to them If he wants to be with you, he'll make it right.