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First Lesson(s) In Love
A personal story in the experience: I Learned Something From My First Love
Aug 22nd, 2007
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dated this guy for a few months before he broke up with me, and I learned a few things in the short time we spent together. I learned that any guy who makes you feel lonely and unwanted, even if they appear to be doing it unintentionally, is not the right guy. I learned that it's not worth it to stay in a relationship that is ****** 80% of the time and AMAZING the other 20%. I learned that it's easier to fall in love with love than it is to fall in love with another person. I learned that anything he says to you while taking your clothes off should not be taken seriously as it is probably a LIE. I learned that physical attraction can only last for so long, and after that part's over, there has gotta be something else there to take its place. Finally, I learned that when you are the one seeing through a rose-colored lens, your friends and your family are most often the ones to tell you what's good for you. In other words, if they keep telling you to break up with him...you should probably do it. 
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  | Posted Aug 27th, 2007 at 10:29PM well said.:) My friends and family kept telling me to walk away from my ex, and it took me a long time to listen. I wish I listended sooner!   |
 | Posted Mar 6th, 2008 at 5:48PM That is so extremely true. I was with a guy for many, many months. At first he was fine, but then he started to bring me down...a lot. He would have really bad mood swings and take them out on me. Like you said, I was so in love with love that I was blind to the way he treated me when he was in bad moods. Like you said, it was AMAZING 20% of the time and sucky the rest. All of my friends told me he was a jerk and that I should dump him, but I never wanted to listen. Looking back, it was a very good learning experience..I just wish it hadn't take up so much of my time. +3 nods |
 | Posted Aug 19th, 2008 at 11:05AM Very well said-wish I had read it 29 years ago---when I was in my first relationship and married him-not knowing anything. +3 nods |
 | Posted Mar 10th, 2009 at 7:22AM Very true. I suppose, though, until you make the mistake for yourself it's harder to believe it. +3 nods |
 | Posted Mar 10th, 2009 at 4:22PM Hi very good lessons learned you said it in a nutshell! =) family and friends are often the best ones to see things that you do not see. hugz to you |
 | Posted Mar 23rd, 2009 at 1:49PM As one who is estrogen-challenged, I can relate. I have mumbled all kinds of things while peeling my sqeeze. All I can say is the thoughts I shared were absolutely true at the time I spoke them. To our common defense, we are only reacting to a huge biological imperative and we have no choice in the matter. It is like some demon takes over our brain. We become focused to the exclusion of all else. We are consumed with the goal and the close we get to it, the more the madness takes hold. It really isn't our fault. No one goes in expecting to lie. We just have little or no control of the beast once he is loose. +2 nods |
 | Posted Apr 4th, 2009 at 12:00AM Amen, sistah. |
 | Posted Apr 11th, 2009 at 2:27PM well put and very well done good job it takes people years to figure that out |
| Posted Apr 11th, 2009 at 2:38PM and listen to your instincts they will help to i never had the proublem of waiting to here it from friends i do it my self as soon as i feel theirs a problem i feel like a **** for it but its for the best |
 | Posted Apr 16th, 2009 at 4:20AM Took me 5 blind years to realize it. ^^ Still struggling with the emotion part after walking away from my very first, failed relationship 2 months ago. But, I hear you! It's for the best. WE all either win or learn something in the end. |
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