Lesson Leaned From My Parents Divorce.

My parents were divorced in 1988 I was 7 years old at the time. I had failed grade three that year, and lived with my mom and saw my dad on weekends. When I was in grade 5 my mom started dating a really abusive man, so she shipped me off to my dads. My dad had a very jealous girlfriend so he shipped me off to my moms! I was back and forth for years! I was once enrolled into one particular school 8 times!!! My grades failed, I was developing ulcers from the stress of having to make new friends everytime I moved, it really messed me up! My social skills were shot, I had dropped out of school in grade 8!!! Not to mention poverty, abuse, and neglect. All I wanted was stability in my life, and when I was 16 I had met my husband who is 20 years older than me he offered me love, and stability, and paid for my education! We had twins got married then I went back to school and became a born again Christian.

I absolutely love my husband we have been together for over 12 years married for 9. Maybe I'm not right in saying this but, if I would have had that stability of a loving home to grow up in then maybe I would have gotten my education when I was expected to, maybe I wouldn't have been 17 and pregnant with a man twice my age. But no matter I'm just lucky that he does treat me right. But because of this experience I have made a promise to myself that I would never get a divorce to the man I married, because I could never deny my children a stable home environment. The twins are now 11 and my daughter is 5 and our youngest is 2. I do believe that the greatest gift that you can give to a child is a loving marriage, and I do. Also with becomming a christian it only solidified my commitment to our vows and family life.

My children have never suffered from being uprooted from school to school, they have friends who will probably last a lifetime, they have never suffered from the anxiety of being lost in the different schools cirriculums doing somethings over while lacking in vital steps in math. They have two loving parents who love each other and our children. I would consider myself as strong compared to my sister who took the divorce really bad when she was in grade 4, she passed away when she was a month shy of her 21st birthday from suicide. That's what abuse and instability can do to a person.

SealedWithAKisss SealedWithAKisss
36-40, F
4 Responses Mar 5, 2010

Reading this story brings back memories. My parents' divorce left long-lasting effects on my sister and I as well. Mistrust, instability and no real sense of safety were some of the more serious hurdles. Marriages of big age differences have been going on for thousands of years so I figure it perfectly normal.

You are an inspiration. Your children have a wonderful mother and will receive the life you longed for yourself.<br />
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The world needs more people like you!

Thank you.

That is so inspiring that you managed to survive such a tough start, and find love and happiness eventually, C! A beautiful story.