You Never Know Who's Gonna Be There For You When No One Else Is

I always used to take this friendship for granted, he was my cousin by marriage (not blood related)

For years me and my other cousins used to tease him and pick on him, and there was a time where when he would come over I would mostly avoid him. 

It wasn't always that way. When we were 6 or 7 and he first came into the family we used to play together all the time, we were great friends. As time went by we drifted apart though, and I wasn't always nice. I had other friends and I just didn't think him and I would ever be friends. 

He developed a crush on me and he was ridiculed by all the rest of the cousins and I started avoiding him more. 

Years later we put this behind us, I started sticking up for him when the other cousins would make fun of him and when he visited i made sure he was welcome. We rekindled the friendship somewhat, when he slept over we would always have so much fun, but then we drifted apart again and didn't really talk. Then we kept in touch online and through text, even though the friendship still wasn't of much value to me. I was just trying to be kind to him.

I overlooked him still, many times. He would message me online or text me and sometimes I would simply decide not to answer. Sometimes I didn't see the point in engaging. Sometimes i would end the conversation if it got really slow just by signing off. I wasn't trying to be rude, I just figured he didn't care either. I kind of thought we just resorted to talking to each other when we were bored.

It was only recently I started talking to him more, I was trying to reach out to people because i was lonely. I thought it was worth a try reaching out to him because we had a lot of things in common now. At times I felt like this was a lost cause, so I didn't put a lot of effort into this friendship, he certainly wasn't one of my top priorities. I wasn't ignoring him or anything though, i just didn't value the friendship too much.

Then, tonight I was having the most difficult time. I was a wreck, I felt like everything was crashing down on me. My best friend was too busy with other things to talk to me. He was dealing with his own depression. My other friend had so many excuses, there really wasn't any effort put in to help. My other friend told me he would talk to me another time. It seemed like everyone was either wrapped up in their own problems, shrugging it off, or making excuses. I felt like I had no one. 

Then my cousin starts texting me words of encouragement "You're an awesome person and an epic friend. You're like my oldest and best friend, you should never feel bad" He planned a day to hang out with me and let me pick anything i would want to do, he said "You pick, since you're feeling down, we can do anything you want!" and then got my mind off everything by talking to me about positive things, and then said "We are going to have an epic time! and remember, you are one of the nicest, kindest, funnest, outgoing, amazing people i know and never forget it because i dont want to hear that you have low self esteem again because you shouldn't"

I was brought to tears.

All my best friends that i put SO much effort into, ironically this week i have worked so miserably hard to make sure that they're happy and put my blood, sweat and tears into it. It's not like i asked for anything in return, just maybe that once in a blue moon if I have some kind of emotional crisis maybe they'll return my text or come see me for a while considering they live 4 minutes away. 
But my cousin, the guy I took for granted, made fun of, ignored and was pretty rude to, the friendship i never put any effort into, he was the one who had my back tonight.

I will never forget that.

I've learned to never overlook a friendship, even a friendship that seems like it has no value, because someday when you really REALLY need someone.. Everyone else could abandon you, and the guy you never cared about could be the only one who's there for you. The only one who goes out of his way to make sure that you're alright.

babygirlxox babygirlxox
18-21, F
May 24, 2012