The Creed Of The Dominant And The SubmissiveAn insight into the mindsets of Dominants and submissives. I do not agree all these qualities are inherent all Dominants and submissives, each relationship and dynamic will differ.
The Dominants creed
Above all, He cherishes His submissive, in the knowledge that the gift of her submission is the deepest, truest form of love. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to Him, but He knows that the sharing of the pleasure that comes from that precious gift is what makes Him worthy to receive it.
He is in control of Himself first and foremost, so that He may control His submissive. As a strong and demanding Dominant He can cause His sub to cry real tears. As a tender lover, He will kiss those tears away without stepping out of character. His strength is never wavering for her, yet He is vulnerable to her if He finds the occasion requires. In times of trouble, a Dominant will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. He would never ask a submissive to put Him before her career, or family, just to satisfy His own pleasure.
To win His submissiveness mind, body and soul, He knows He must first earn her trust. He will show His submissive His humor, kindness, warmth, and power. He shows her that He is a Dominant she can learn from. She sees that His guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her respect. He knows she needs to feel His strength and His romantic love.
He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, He will fight for His lady's honor. When she needs it He will be unrelenting and obdurate. He proves to Her that He is someone she can lean on and depend on.
He teaches His submissive Her lessons of trust and obedience constantly. He is a strong and unyielding teacher and taskmaster. He will accept no flaw, and nothing less than perfection from His student. He will ask much of her, and give her much in the process. Never does He use discipline or punishment without a good reason. When He does, it is always with knowledge and careful consideration. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to Him.
He is a careful guide, with safety always His main concern. He knows how to orchestrate the use of pain to extend the bounds of pleasure. He is a mentor who can bring her to the edges of her envelope, and gently show her the inner courage to reach new heights and to grow. He is always open to communication and discussion, desiring to hear her wants, needs and fantasies. For through knowing these things He becomes worthy to compel her actions.
He is patient, taking the time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of Him grows, so will they stretch those limits, and grow together.
He never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to Him out of the want of pleasing Him. Compliance's come from wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body, and never violates the trust given to Him. He is secure enough to laugh at Himself and the absurdities of life. Courageous enough to accept assistance and admit errors. Open minded enough to learn constantly new ways and ideas of improving. His tools are mind, spirit, soul, and body, with a little help from rope, crop, flogger, paddle and blindfold. He earns compliance of her mind, He demands control her body.
He does not desire ritual behavior from her. He knows respect is earned, not demanded. He wishes her actions to be gifts of love and He desires that she responds to Him out of the need to please Him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment.
He compels, rather than controls.
He is old-fashioned enough to be a chauvinist, yet modern enough to respect and admire His submissive, her strength, her courage, her depth of devotion. He is quick to point out the difference between them, He also knows there is no inferiority in those differences.
He cherishes, protects, defends, and possesses her. Quick to point out the difference between them, he knows that there is no inferiority in her submission, she is a treasure and worthy of His devotion. Her desires and responses give purpose to His efforts. He is in awe of her.
He understands that each partner gains from pleasuring the other, each in their unique way serves the other. He knows that love ba
He strives always to be worthy of this, as He lives for her gift.
i am a submissive woman/man.
i find pleasure, joy and fulfillment from being submissive to Another in a loving relationship.
i am not weak or stupid.; i am a strong woman/man, with firm views and a clear concept of what i want out of my life.
i do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.
i will look to my loving Master/Mistress for guidance and protection, for never will i be more complete than when He/She is with me.
i know that He/She will protect my body, my mind and my soul with His/Her strength and wisdom.
He/She is everything to me, as i am everything to Him/Her.
His/Her touch awakens me and His/Her thoughts free me. Only in serving Him/Her do i find complete freedom and joy.
His/Her punishments are harsh, but i accept them thankfully, knowing that He/She has my best interests always foremost in His/Her mind.
If He/She desires my body for pleasure, i shall joyfully give it to Him/Her, and take great pleasure in myself knowing that i have brought Him/Her happiness.
However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship.
The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship.
my body is His/Hers and if He/She says i am beautiful, then i am.
No matter what i look like to others, i am beautiful in His/Her eyes, and because of that i hold my head high.....
for who can tell me that my Master/Mistress is wrong in seeing the beauty in me?
If He/She says that i am His princess or Her prince, then i am that....regal and gracefull.
And if i see laughter at me in the eyes of O/others, i do not recognize it, for who are T/they to call my Master/Mistress wrong? If He/She says i am His/Her toy, His/her ****, His/Her tramp, then i am that....
as wanton and dirty as He/She desires me to be, and if O/others do not see this, then it is T/they who are blind, not my Master/Mistress my mind is His/Hers to expand, to explore, to know as only He/She can.
i have no secrets from Him/Her..
.for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being more perfectly His/Hers Secrets would put a wall up between my Master/Mistress and myself..and i do not want walls.
His/Her lessons are not always ones i would seek on my own, but they are lessons He/She has decided i need and so i learn them from Him/Her.
my soul is His/Hers, as bare to His/Her touch as ever my skin could be when i kneel naked at His/Her feet.
Never a moment goes by when i do not feel His/Her presence, be He/She miles away or standing before me.
If i were ever to displease Him/Her, HisHer displeasures would be a blow to my soul, worse punishment than any lashes could be.
The anguish of my soul that i feel when i disappoint Him/Her is harder to bear than the physical anguish i feel when His/Her belt caresses me with fire.
i spend my days knowing that the energy and thought He/She puts into O/our relationship is as much for my benefit as for His/Hers, and look forward to each lovingly crafted scene that W/we do together.
His/Her part is much harder than mine, and i know this and am grateful that He/She cares enough about me to spend His/Her time and energy so freely on me.
i have the easier job: to feel, to experience, to let myself go and abandon everything to Him/Her.
i am His/Her pleasure and responsibility, and He/She takes both seriously.
i am proud to call myself that.
my submission is a Gift that i do not give lightly, and can only be given to One who can appreciate that Gift and return it ten fold.
Only to He/She who has that strength will i give myself fully, because i am strong and proud.
i am a submissive woman/man.
* Extract taken from http://www.angelfire.com/ak/Iceman1963/BDSM6.html