What Did You Expect To Happen?
You had no right to insert yourself into my marriage. You had no right to sleep with my husband and I don't know what you thought you were going to gain by doing so. Yes, this is his fault. It's also yours. I really don't give a damn who the pursuer was, the fact is, YOU knew that he was married and that makes you just as responsible as he is. You can try to deflect the blame all you want, but I hold you equally responsible. What kind of woman knowingly sleeps with a married man KNOWING that there is no chance for a future?? Why would you do that to anyone, but most of all yourself? I don't get it. You must have a very low view of yourself if you were willing to take another woman's scraps. You preyed on his vulnerabilities and had hoped that he would leave his family for you, even when he told you there was no chance of him ever leaving. I think that you tried your best to manipulate him and use his vulnerabilities to continue the affair. My God, even when he called you and told you that I knew, you still begged him to talk with you so that you could give him your thoughts on the matter. Did you REALLY believe that YOUR thoughts, the thoughts of the person intruding on our marriage, would matter to either one of us???? Sorry, sister, but my husband had more important things to think about than what was on your mind. See how important you were to him?
I think it's horribly unfair that I did nothing wrong yet I am the one suffering the most. I see the grief and remorse in my husband's eyes and I know that if he could go back and change things, he would. He wishes that he never would have met you, and thankfully, he's realized that his feelings for you were nothing but pure fantasy. An escape from the daily stresses of life. They weren't real. You could have been ANYBODY...it was never about YOU. You just happened to be there. The thing is, it wasn't about me or our marriage, either. It was about how he felt about himself. Yep, that's right, you were nothing but an ego boost. Yes, maybe you had your little fling with him for a short time, but at the end of the day, he chose his wife without a second's hesitation. All you were was a huge mistake that he regretted instantly. So, what does that leave you with? Nothing. You're left with absolutely nothing, so I ask you, was it worth it? Was causing another woman to suffer this way worth what you got in the end?
I can't believe how jealous you got over him living his "real life"...what the hell did you expect? He was very honest with you from the start and told you that he would never leave me. Didn't it give you a clue when you would get angry and want to see him more often but all he could spare for you was an hour or so every couple of weeks?
I think you were a golddigger. You grew up as a country club brat and you thought that being with my husband would give you the same status that your mom enjoyed. Guess what...he may be your "ideal" man, but he's mine. Got that? MINE.
Someday you will know this devastating agony that I am feeling...someday some tramp will slither her way into your relationship and when you're laying on the floor in a crumpled heap of devastation barely able to breathe because of the horrible grief and pain, you'll think of me.
My marriage is going to be fine...as a matter of fact, my husband and I will be stronger than before. We already are. He loves ME and is doing everything in his power to right his wrongs....you? You get nothing. He wants nothing to do with you and regrets the day he ever first spoke with you.