I Want To Stop Lying

I need help on how to stop lying..

 

Ive been lying alot and bout the smallest and dumbest things

and its ruining my relationship with my boyfriend.

I just want it to stop so i can be happy with him

cuz he always catches me and it just makes us end up fighting.

I dnt want to lie to him but i do so that he wont get mad at me.

But i need to stop and i need help.

So does any1 have any suggestions?

erniie19 erniie19
18-21, M
3 Responses Feb 27, 2010

Same boat, exactly, here. It seems the more I want to stop, the more lies, the most masks, I put up. And I've paid the price. I've lost my best friend the other day because of this and I'm....well, she's not coming back.
If you ever want someone to talk to, I'll be around, and know exactly how you feel, if it's any help.

I feel like I am in the same boat. I guess a little worse off because I am married. The sad thing is, even when I think Im making an effort to be honest- once I start to see his reaction to what I am saying I slump right back into my pattern of lieing again. It is so frustrating. I feel like I am going to go out of my skull and Im not sure how to feel better. If you ever need to talk let me know

I also life alot. So I can understand how you feel. I mostly do it because I feel at this point in time my life is boring. I don't belive my lies so I guess that is a good thing. I think you should start slow. Try to be honest about one thing at a time. It won't all happen overnight. I have developed a pattern of lying so I have to relearn how to be honest and unlearn how to stop lying. Also, you say that you lie to him so he wont get mad at you. If he gets mad at you for the truth or for being honest with him then do you really want to be with someone like that. You cant build a relationship on lies. I know belive me. I have been there. Good luck!