The Older I Get, The More I Do...

First off, i want to say it is so nice to hear of everyone in this experience group that adores asian men...for once they are not being riduculed, belittled or bashed!  I am asian (Japanese) and have seen so many negative things written about asian men, it was sad!  So thank you all, for this refreshing group!  Now for my story...

I do find as i get older, that i'm leaning more towards my roots when it comes to men. Of course i was like most asian girls that lived in the U.S., dating predominantly only white men.  My boyfriend of 10 years was a white man, and he was a very wonderful and kind person all the way until his untimely death 3 years ago.  Once again finding myself in the dating world, and in a different generation at that, i realized that a lot of the guys that were interested in me, weren't interested in ME, but what i was (asian)...they seem to have wanted a pet, a project or a experiment.  Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that all guys are like that, but it seemed the majority of them were.  Even when i was attracted to this one guy, who had never even fathomed going out with an asian but went out with me as an "experience",  he quickly kicked me to the curb when he found a nice blonde girl. 

Although a bit heartwrenched, i finally thought to myself, why should i knock myself out for anyone who doesn't want me for who i am but what i am....at least i wouldn't have that problem with an asian man.  And, as i get older i find myself a little less flexible about things...i eat Japanese food and Korean food, i watch the dramas, i speak japanese fluently, and i still do things that are culturally related.  I have found that some insensitive men (who actually like asian women)  find the food offensive and laugh at the dramas saying the asian guy who stars in it is a wuss cause he's being romantic.  With an asian man, at the least, won't be disgusted by the food!  Sadly, though, i am a minority...many of my girl friends who are asian look at me as if i had 15 heads when i tell them that i would date asian men....especially one from the mother country.  Thanks for letting me share my story.