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I Am A Fat Girl... But My Husband Is Having A Hard Time With My Weight Loss.

   I am not sure what to do. I have decided to get healthy, and live a better life, I am doing good!  I have lost 27 lbs. since Dec. 1st. My husband like bigger women and I have known this since we dated in high school, but I can't be like this anymore. I don't know what to do. He is very upset about me loosing weight. I know he tries to be supportive because he knows it is healthier for me, but he is at the point where he can't handle it. Has anyone else here been through this. What can we do? Any and all advice is welcome.
Alohana Alohana 26-30 7 Responses Jan 20, 2011

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Just keep on loving him. Let him see (and feel) your love every day. From my own experience, he is worried that when you get skinny, you will leave him for some other man. I know, because it happened to me. My Ex lost 65 lbs, and on one sunny day three years ago in the spring (almost to this day) she informed me that she wanted a divorce. Then when it was legal to do so after the divorce, she married a man who lived a flashy life - because she said she deserved more than I could provide.
So make him feel loved, and not let him worry about you leaving him. Make him really feel like he is your MAN and no-one else can turn your eyes to them. Like I have always said, it is not what you see on the outside, it is who is on the inside that really counts. Turn on your love light, and shine it on him - and wait to be astonished!

The point is that even though he is sad, he still supports you and loves you, yeah he wants you bigger,but he still helps you with your weight loss. Its also healthyer to be fatter than to be skinnier, and even if its not the health and your worried about what people think of you, don't. They don't care, they're worried about themselves, not you. If I were you, I would gain it back, and even maybe more, you can eat whatever you want, your husbands more attracted to you, and you'll be healthier fat than skinny. Just gain it back. He loves you either way, but love is only 3/4 of a relationship, 1/4 is appearance, so go out and eat whatever you want. Now every ones happy.

FYI its more healthy to be fat

Well i think he should love u for who u are and not what u look like. If he cant handle that then u have to ask does he really love u. Congrats on the weight loss.

That's a challenge.The bottom line is how do YOU feel,physically and mentally?If he really loves you,he will support either choice.What were your reasons for losing weight-family input,doc,otherwise?Were you chubby when you got together?

I prefer large women as well. However, I don't see a woman being large as the end-all and be-all of her existence. I consider health and her own preferences to come before mine. In other words, if for any reason it is deemed that she must lose weight to maintain her health, or if for any reason, she has simply decided to lose weight, then this overrides what I like.<br />
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While I'd prefer that you were happy and fat, in the end, I'd rather you be happy than fat.

That is a most interesting story.. I'm sorry he is not more understanding. I wish the best for you. <br />
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Congrats on the weight loss!!