I Feel Guilty

I skipped 6th grade way back when and I feel guilty telling people about it because it feels like bragging.  I can't take any responsibility for being intelligent--it's genetics. 

I tend to simplify what I'm saying and not use the full extent of my vocabulary when I'm around most people.  I love to spend time with people that expand my mind and challenge my beliefs.  I end up spending more time with people who aren't quite as intelligent as me and I think I dumb myself down for doing that. 
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3 Responses Aug 5, 2007

Don't feel guilty for being socially intelligent - which is exactly what your story is demonstrating. Calpurnia in To Kill a Mockingbird summed it up best. When Scout and Jem accompany her to church and hear her talking to her friends they question why she speaks so differently to her friends than she does around their home, or in front of Atticus. Her response:<br />
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"It's not necessary to tell all you know. It's not ladylike – in the second place, folks don't like to have somebody around knowin' more than they do. It aggravates 'em. You're not gonna change any of them by talkin' right, they've got to want to learn themselves, and when they don't want to learn there's nothing you can do but keep your mouth shut or talk their language." (12.139-144)

Maybe you should find some friends who know the difference between acceptance of one's self and putting on a façade. You may be surprised at what you will gain.

Don't be ashamed about who you are! I understand how you feel. I too tend to spend more time around people who are less intelligentthen I am, but then again how do you rate intelligence? I might be better at languages and logical thinking then most of my friends but they have other qualities that I appreciate. <br />
I don't think you can dumb yourself merely by spending time with someone with a lower IQ, you might get dumber if you don't do something new every day to challenge your self and your mind. I belive that every singel individual can teach you something new. Don't underestimate your friends by simplifying your language, speak as well as you can and teach them something at the same time. They may yet surprise you!