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I Need Advice

Please help, I need some advice. I have found an older guy that I would like to marry in the future. We met on a Christian dating site. I am 23 and he's 43. I live at home with my mom (she's 61) right now because I'm finishing school. Okay, I'll give more info. The reason I ask is because at 18 I went out with a guy A LOT older and um it didn't go so hot. Well, I am not talking marriage now, I hope in the next coupel of yeas. And she's made comments about age before, so that's why I ask. We wouldn't be together until after I finish school. However, how do I tell my mom about this relationship? She says thinks that life experience can't match up and she's called guys "perverts." I really want to be with this man, so any advice?

ChihuahuaSweetheart ChihuahuaSweetheart 26-30, F 5 Responses Jun 27, 2009

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When you dated the 1st guy you weren't as mature as you are now. So give him a chance and tell your mother that you really want to be with him and she can't choose who you like.

Hes only got a few good years left. You on the other hand you have 20-30 good years left. You won't be an "ole maid." Go find someone your own age or close. You can age together. Trust me on this.

Hes only got a few good years left. You on the other hand you have 20-30 good years left. You won't be an "ole maid." Go find someone your own age or close. You can age together. Trust me on this.

Good advice.

You are very young so my best advice is to certainly wait until you are older. HOw long have you known this man? My fiance is 13 yrs. my senior so the age gap doesn't bother me but you being so young does a bit. People with such an age difference can get along so I don't want you to think that is why I sort of disapprove. You aren't sure how to tell your mother so (please don't take this as me being harsh) you still have a little growing up to do. If you were confident in your decision I would hope you wouldn't have a problem telling your mother how you feel about this man. I'm not trying to come off as rude or a know it all. You should tell your mother that you two are seeing each other but there is no reason to mention marriage at the moment. Don't get her all wound up for nothing. Take it a day at atime. If your mother is a bit 'difficult' just give her time and let her know you've made up your mind and you are a big girl. Hope this helps.