Like you, I've always been excited about other men, seeing, touching and finally experiencing my wife. My wife was very experienced with other guys before me and was always as she puts it, "the pleaser". So between the urge to please me and the want of attention, she fell right into it. After getting topless with a friend of ours one New Years at our house, she became very attracted to him and the two of them explored each other up to the point of nearly having sex. She loved giving him oral and letting him play with her breasts, which I loved watching and participating. We met with him almost monthly for a beer and she always told him goodbye with a topless blow job in his car and usually gave me the same right after. It was an exciting time. Then we explored a little with other guys and a few others got to play with her but for some strange reason, no guy ever had sex with her. They just enjoyed her oral or could not maintain an erection. It was not for lack of trying. This lasted for years and slowly over time, we began being called back to our childhood religion. We still were friends with the first guy and we saw him and his wife and kids plenty. The two of them would steal away now and then and share a kiss or a fondle. We always wondered why he never did just take her. We fell away with them and even our relationship struggled. It became difficult to make love to my wife without fantisizing about him between her legs instead of me and the same for her. So with us beginning to experience the truth of the meaning of marriage and sexuality along with the constant fantasy in our heads, we pretty much stopped having sex all together. Last weekend we had a little party and the two of them were invited. We had a great time and since they had a longer drive, they decided to stay the night. I and my wife had talked to him separately about how he was still a part of us and the desire was still there but I remember telling him I was worried about keeping our marriage bed as sc
ripture puts it "undefiled". They fell asleep on the couch and we went up to bed and for the first time in a long time we made love. I think it was the fact that he was with us that brought back that attraction. My wife fell asleep in only a small thin tank top and I was still nude. We awoke about 3am to a knock on the door. It was him. He just walked in and climbed into our bed on the other side of her. He put himself under the covers and spooned with my nearly naked wife. His hand slid up her tank top from behind and before I knew it, emerged from the top. He was squeezing my wife's breasts under her shirt and she looked at me with excitement and fear. He had turned her head to him, planted his mouth on hers, bared her breasts with one hand had his other burried deep between her legs. Her legs natually spread to allow him full access and I just watched as he had completely taken over her body without a word. She was lost and I could tell would do anything he wanted. He finally broke his kiss with her and pulled his hand out from between her legs in order to undo his pants and pull out his ****. She looked at me and I thought of the sc ripture and I placed my hand over her crotch and said, "no sex" while he undid his pants. She had her hand on him stroking him and he was pushing to get access between her legs. She still had a hold of him and he had his mouth planted fully on her left breast, when I repeated my command. She told him that they can't. After a few times of attempting to gain access, she got up out of bed and he left. This all happened in the span of about ten minutes and we were left a little in shock and not realizing the full affect of what just happened. My feeling was only out of lust on his part. I was seeing my wife treated like a "thing" and I knew and loved her as much more than that. I had to maintain control and make sure my marriage bed was not "defiled". My wife saw that and she became much more attracted to me because i stood up for her honor and our marriage. We made love four times in the next two days and all without him in our heads. It was a beautiful thing. We understand now that marriage is not defined by us. We cannot make it what we want even if we both agree. It was invented by God and He tells us how to treat it. Turns out we are experiencing a closeness with each other even more than we did by inviting others in. All my wife really wanted was to be loved and valued. Nothing compared to the security of knowing she was loved and protected. Will I still get a little thrill when I catch a guy looking down my wife's shirt? Sure, but its only because she is a beautiful feminine creation and I can't blame any male for noticing. But she is mine and I will fight to keep her an "unblemished gift" and our marriage bed "undefiled". I hope you can experience the same.