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My Boyfriend's Embarrassed....

I think he feels inadequate, but I like to see what they show (his 'pouch'). I tell him I don't care what other people think about the size of his equipment. After all, do I worry about the size of my breasts? (Of course I do, I just can't do anything to change that).

He's actually knockout attractive, not that it matters, but he's just so self conscious in public about his average equipment. Plus I like to tease him a lot. I tell him all the time, 'that woman is looking at YOU.' Ha ha, it's so funny how he tenses up and sort of closes himself, as if that made a bit of difference at all.

The funny thing is when we go to nudist resorts, where he's still average at best -- I mean in terms of size -- he doesn't seem to mind at all. I would have imagined he'd be even more self-conscious there, since he's shaved naked as a jay bird, just like me. (It's our 'deal.') When he was standing around drinking a beer in the parking lot next to the pool, I heard this older woman talking with him. He'd been explaining how he was trying to lose a few pounds (OMG, he's like 6 foot two and weighs 185, like he needs too!), and she was telling him how she was too. Then she rattles off that she thinks he looks great, right as she's staring at his p*n*s! OMG, I was furious. I came trotting out and asked him where was MY beer that he was supposed to be getting. I was so furious I walked him back to the pool and FORCED him to stay close to me the rest of the day...

Okay, so he's ashamed to wear a Speedo at a regular beach? Humpfffffffffffff!!!!!!!
JanieNudiePants JanieNudiePants 31-35, F 44 Responses Aug 21, 2012

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Great story! It gave me a good laugh. Hey what is wrong with checking out other people: clothed or unclothed? We all do it so what's the big deal as long as you don't make the other person uncomfortable. Nudism is all about freedom and relaxation for people of all shapes and sizes (breasts, penis, bodies, whatever). I'd never wear a Speedo at a regular beach. Not because of my package, but because they are so tight. I'd rather just wear nothing, but if I have to I go baggy so my junk can hang comfortably.

A small potato in his speedos would help fill things out, just make sure he puts in down the front :)

Oh no! like my padded bras!!

I cant believe you pad your bras x

Haha, it makes me feel better in a dress. Plus so lacy and cute.....

I think the speedo is the issue. If hes fine being nude in front of others with no issues. Then by process of elimination its the stigma of wearing a speedo. Try buying him something from or Work him into it gradualy. He'll come around.

that's what I'm trying to do...

Tell him to stop worrying about wearing speedos on the beach...its when the ladies stop lookin...then he's got a problem...

Oh, the perfect response! Thanks.

That us a funny story.


Unless you have a good body or maybe a bit shy i can understand where he is coming from. Seems like you were a bit jealous too.

I like him to wear them. I like to show off, too

Good for you. I wear speedo suit all the time, no matter where I am (unless I am somewhere where I can wear a thong). Yes, I did feel self-conscious at first (many years ago), but got over that very quickly. I enjoy all the attention I get from the women.

Davyjo, Where do you live?

Why do you ask?

Just some areas, south Miami, it might be more accepted than say in Kansas City

or Colorado...

Yes, that's my guess. I haven't ever been to south Miami Beaches. Others in FL, just not south Miami


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I love to swim in them, and I suntan in the back yard we mine, but as far as around in public, like at a lake, I would rather not.

But if you're in shape, what are you missing??? Lots of cute smiles from girls like me......

Well that is true, but Some women are truly turned off by them.
but if you like my speedo, come swim in the lane next to me, or share my lane LOL

I would love too!

PS, do you think it would be fair to say some men are turned off by attractive women in bikinis? Do you think any of them care?

Men are much more simple than women, If she looks good it is pretty much universal 99% of the men will enjoy watching her. Women read a lot more into what they see, what is attractive to women are almost as diverse as women are. Some women would see a man in a speedo and think "that's hot" others would see the same guy and think "he is desperate" and other would assume he is gay.

I do like swimming laps next to women in my little speedo, and showing off as well. Sometimes I even hike up the back to show more skin as I swim

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I wore a speedo in high school swimming. I really did feel kind of uncomfortable on those starting blocks with everyone staring at you. I just got used to it is all

I think that's the best response... you get used to it and then are only vaguely aware of it. It's like women when you dress nicely, or somehow do something to attract men. You are vaguely aware that men are interested, and don't think about it directly but still use it, because frankly, well, that's why you dress up...


we are all creatures of habit, me included.

I just recently started wearing a speedo at my gym & it made me feel very self conscious! Now I really like wearing them. I have a suggestion to help him if you want let me know.

I think that's a natural progression for men. Unfortunately, our society discourages men from displaying anything manly (with curves).

I completely agree!

Please make any suggestions you wish.

See if he will wear these
Thats how I started out & then moved to a brief style.


your very welcome!

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He's lucky he's not ridiculously sized. It's actually an advantage to be normal to smaller size if he wants to wear Speedos. I couldn't be in our downtown fountain if I were 'on display' even at fully relaxed status. I've also used my Speedo image as an avatar at some sites. And to be so lean and tall, he's got to take a look around and see the Twinkies and fries hanging around the tops of the Speedos of so many of the other guys, he has every right to celebrate his body - and all the choices he makes, primarily in honor of you - to earn your presence in his life, your aesthetic appreciation - when he might like the donuts or other treats, or sitting on the sofa like so many other guys his age, when he's obviously out there moving around, keeping the flab off. That takes watching what he's putting in and how much he's doing to keep the normal intake burning off. I certainly salute his efforts, and encourage him to enjoy his Speedo-able size. Here's an angle that might help - surprise! You'll see one of my posts is about my experience posing for a boudoir photographer. I was surprised how beautifully the photographer shaped the final images. We can all easily do simple self-shots, but if he has a professional photographer do a series with him - he doesn't have to be nude, just some cowboy/construction worker/rancher shirt-off / jeans & boots shots - he'll have new confidence in his hotness, to compliment your clearly enthusiastic appreciaton of his bod.

Very nice post... I'll think about it.

Actually, I would rather he were nude, lol. After all, he has nude pictures of me!

I was nude for two of the three final best shots, and I'm the only nude on the photographer's Gents page, so that's a lot of fun. It's minimally discrete, but beautifully done, so besides being an ego booster, it also serves as a Witness, looking over my shoulder when I get home and want to grab a fistfull of cookies. Makes me ride the bike to work when I might otherwise drive, too. Might as well be a personal trainer. Oh- I forgot to suggest something to you: have wallet prints made, too, and put one or two in something he'll read a few months down the road. A fun surprise.


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It happens girl!

Specially with the younger crowd....

Encourage him. My wife also likes to see my pouch when I wear my speedo or my thong

I like to see men in bikini style underwear

Then go **** someone else!!! WTF!!!???


I wear speedos or I wear nothing at all (usually the case.) My wife loves it both ways.

I imagine she does, and who would know better....

That is hilarious, and you tell the tale well.

I always wondered why these errands took so long!!!!

I know the feeling. at least you support and encourage him!

I love wearing speedo, and I'm still bashful about wearing mine at the beach.

You're not wearing it enough.

try getting more comfortable at the pool wit lap swimmers

hey wear it and show it like i do so why be bashful look the other way and see some women in there suits thats what i like and just smile

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I love showing off my body at the beach and I'm 270 pounds

You have a LOT more to show off than I do, but more power to you!!!! (at 104 pounds)

Go buy a woman's Thong swimsuit and give it to him to wear. Ha

haha..... would he? maybe -- if it was what I said

I'm sure he would love me for that!

I wear seeedo's . one reason I have nice looking legs. the swim trunks you can get cover to much of them. I think I look ok in a speedo not great just ok. My wife likes how I look in them too

He's a brave man i dont think i could wear a speedo


Is he shower or a grower? I look great naked my **** is about 5 in soft. About 6 in hard. We were messing around with some longtime friends and we all got naked. It was funny. My poor buddy is uncut and his was hiding in its hood, about 2 in at best. Hid wffe looked at me and visibly gasped and became obviously interested. However later it was obvious we were both about 6 in hard. So as they say, you cant tell a book by its cover. Careful with your jealously, hes yours. Ego boosts are good for everyonne. And dont tease him about it.

all good points.... Yes, egos are very fragile, I know that story best.....

Don't stop encouraging him! We guys need all the support we can get! The most difficult part of wearing a speedo is getting over that "image" issue.

Yes, I suppose...

I think older men have fewer hangups about them than young guys. I imagine its a combination of them being more common years ago,and the relatively recent stigma added by gay men. To top it off, old men are less worried about what kind of image they present at that age. They aren't off trying to defend their masculinity to everyone around.

You are correct in that there is a generational divide with the acceptability of speedos. The hostility toward speedos seemed to start in the late eighties and early nineties. As you have said, part of it was the association with "teh gay", as demonstrated by conservative press coverage of early Gay Pride events: they would focus on the floats featuring men with speedos as an item of ridicule. (It seemed that every time one of these reports were aired, men's swimsuit styles would get baggier and longer.) Another unwarranted argument against speedos was "Fat Guys Look Disgusting In Them." I don't have to tell you that a guy with a huge gut looks just as bad in board shorts! Finally, Speedos are handicapped in some areas in that they have been banned. "We are a family values establishment. We don't want you to traumatize the children!" Don't get me started with this one!
Thanks for your comments!

I agree that a guy with a huge gut looks as bad in board shorts as in a Speedo. But banned! OMG, I've never heard of that. Where?

I was an adult leader at a summer camp a year or two ago. We all got into our bathing suits for a swim check, with me and one other guy wearing Speedos. Based on the reactions, and the subsequent prohibition, you'd have thought we had physically assaulted the women lifeguards. That was the end of swimming for that summer, as Speedos are the BIGGEST bathing suits that I own!

I've had personal experience with some lakefront beaches in southeast Ohio.

Another interesting story is from a municipal pool in Kanab, Utah. The city announced a dress code for the pool that initially included a ban on all two-piece suits for women. Predictably there were howls of protest over that, and the code was adjusted to allow bikinis. Interestingly, the code for men still bans any form-fitting outfit, including speedos and jammers. Only clown-pants board shorts permitted!

i was on an all boys swim team in hs and it wasn't a big deal. then in college, the team was co-ed. you felt the girls sizing you up with their eyes. i'm not packing much of a bulge, so i was pretty self concious.

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I wear a speedo and my wife is always pointing out other women and asking what I think they would be like in the sack. This keeps me half hard most of the time at the pool. She gets a kick out of other Girls checking out my package. She is always such a tease. She will talk to some of the women and the tell me that they think I look hot for an ole guy…I can’t tell if that was what she was talking to them about or just building me up….I know for sure she did one time. The woman said “ I told your wife that she was lucky to have a package like you. I replied “ thank you, did she tell you that I thought you would be a lovely afternoons entertainment ?” she replied “That I could be” we I have digressed from the subject. If you want him to wear the speedo don’t get real up tight when he gets checked out….

You've got a great wife, and a great relationship... and I guess as long as you understand why you wear a Speedo (or bikini or anything revealing, really), then that's cool.

OH, I am blessed. thank you

My bro has become much more popular now I convinced him to go back to them.
I wear bikinis because it makes me feel good so i don't see why he should miss out.

Fit guys wearing Speedos look awfully good...

Melanie says, "I wear bikinis because it makes me feel good..." pretty well sums it up. I wear speedos or my other "island bikinis" for the same reason. It is as close to nude as you can be, fits snugly, and let them look! LOL! It simply feels good...

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Well done. I got my brother to wear them again too. We used to both be in the junior life savers at the local beach when we were little . Our uniform was red one piece and the boys wore red speedos. Then he thought nothing of it. Lately he has become self conscious and only wears huge baggy shorts. Everyone seems to approve of these for some reason I cant work out. Why anyone would want to swim in them I don't know. Anyway we were on holiday miles from home and I said get some speedos so he did. It didn't take much encouragement just a bit. He looks so much better in them.

I'll bet he was a cute jr lifeguard in his little red Speedo! lol Glad he remembered how much easier they are to swim in.... Everyone seems to approve of huge baggy shorts for the reason that Gay Pride parades recently have worn them. Why anyone would want to swim in them I don't know, but guys are terrified of the "gay" label and will do anything -- including swim in canvas sacks, to avoid that label.

I think you are right and that must be what is happening here too. I think I made the mistake of telling my bro he still looked cute in speedos. He got embarased but sill wore them all holiday and the girls he met seemed to like them to.
Back home though and he is back to the sacks. Can't work guys out sometimes.

If you sis says get some Speedos you better do what she says! LOL

Oh, it's also common for guys ages 15 to about 24 to become extremely self conscious. Then they et over it and will go back to wearing Speedos...

I will be happy when the sack fad is over.

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At a nudist beach, shaming is very bad form. At a regular beach, people feel entitled to be cruel, scornful, dismissive, or just plain rude.

You clearly know nudist rules..... no comments on other people's bodies, because that's just plain rude!

like your story, i am a boy and am only 120 pounds, fit as can be tho. I wear them and thong swimsuits, they have helped build me, body wise. I used to be ashamed of being so small, also not that big down there. I feels really good tho when have all the girls around me at the beach, they all love it.

sounds like you figured it out.... lol

"I was furious." Oh, cmon. Cut him a little slack. You didn't really think he would abandon you for that older women did you? Besides, you want to be able to flirt with some of the hot dudes you meet without him going viral, don't you.

she was teasing, virtually preying on my guy... what do you think, I wouldn't care at all

you do have a point, about flirting I guess.... but I'm human too...

Yeah. Guys were always hitting on my wife. She loved to flirt back with them and watch their "reactions" (if you know what I mean). I knew it was all a game, so no big deal. If she noticed some hot babe before I did, she would always point her out, and if we were walking, would drop back as we walked by, so it didn't look like we were together. All harmless fun.


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I've been wearing Speedos (and less) for 20+ years. Kind of embarrassed the kids when they were teens, but today they are proud of me for having the "guts" to do it! Have a couple of European suits I bought in the islands that I love, too. If you can't be nude, wear something skimpy!

Let's see, we don't really have 'kids' to embarrass --my so's got a 13 year old girl. She's good with it, not a huge swimmer yet, but I work with her. the other kids at the pool seem to enjoy it... Women don't talk about it much, it push the limit... the boys just loooook... I enjoy it when they shift their gaze down there. I wear pretty tight suits, and my curves come out pretty well, where I do...

Just goes to show ladies, if you don't want the average size penis somebody else will.

P*nis size...much ado about nothing...

Exactly. Your reassurance that you're not bother by his size is a confidence builder. The fact the other lady came up to him just shows it's not always the size.

it's never only about size....