Catch 22?

For most women I feel like it is hard for us to be strong or confident when society tells us that a the proper role of a woman is to be submissive and graceful and gentle and all that...and that if we do not fit that role then we will probably be alone for the rest of our lives.

I often envy men for how easy it is for them to be confident. I think it is different for women. I think even when women ARE confident in themselves, we cannot express it like men can.

We have been taught that to succeed in life as females that we must follow the rules and be obedient. Guys, on the other hand, have been taught to do whatever they want however they want. And what is sad is that the reason we are taught such things is because it is true, women can't get through life doing whatever they want however they want, because we are dependent, because we are not in charge, because we rely on the boss to put food on our table. Guys, on the other hand, don't have to deal with that problem as much, so confidence and independence benefit them more.

The other sad thing is that our society values confidence and independence above all else...while at the same time putting certain constraints and restrictions on how a woman should express it (or if she should even have it)...so where does this put women? And more importantly, what is a woman to do about this problem...how SHOULD she handle it?

How do *I* handle it?
shannonymous shannonymous
18-21, F
2 Responses Dec 2, 2012

Michael was just telling me about how masculine traits are directly related to a whole bunch of positive outcomes in life (psychologically and otherwise!), and how the opposite is true with feminine traits... It's a shame, I think, that we're socialized in the ways we are, even though we know what those stereotypes lead to. (And don't get me started on the whole double standard!)

But hey, like one of the other smart commenters put it: be you. Life's too short to live otherwise, and at least there's a growing number of people fighting back against what we've been led to believe. :)

I can buy that! and thanks for the advice, I try to follow it every day!

'SHOULD' only matters to someone else. You be you.