Spanked Hard By My Boyfriend For Disobeying

My boyfriend, is so gentle and loving, and very attentive!! One day before he left for work, I was still half sleeping and he came over to my side of the bed, kissed my forehead, eyelids, nose and then mouth.  He told me to call him when I woke up and tell him my plans for the day.  I jokingly said, "Hope I dont forget" and he playfully turned me over and slapped me once hard on the butt.  He has arms like tree trunks from working out all the time.  He said hopefully that will remind you!!  So later that morning I called him and he told me that materials had arrived for a big job he was working on and he would probably be later than usual.  I told him I loved him and I would have dinner with him when he got home.   I told him I was staying home and going to clean and work in my garden.  He said to call him of anything changed.  I decided to go to the beach for a couple hours. The problem was that a few weeks before I told him I wanted to go to the beach and he said your not to go alone to this particular beach because he had heard there were frequent muggings and drug deals happening there.  I told him I thought it was ridiculous I had been going there without  a problem for years.  He quickly said "do not argue with me, you are not to go there alone".  I just let it go.  So I head off to the beach, I didn't let him know for obvious reasons.  So I spend a couple hours enjoying the sun, beach, etc., and decide I better head out, since I couldn't look too  sunburned.  I tie my towel around my waist as I am still damp from swimming and start walking up the beach to head to my car in the parking lot.  As I get onto the tar, I look at the end of the row where I was parked and it was still pretty far away but it appeared something was blocking my car.  I thought "great, what if I can't get out and get home before my boyfriend".  I continue walking and then notice its a pickup truck and realize it black. I think OMG that can't be Jay.....OMG....OMG......I continue walking but am trembling a bit.  I realize its him.  Dread.  I stop walking and begin trembling even more.  I call out to him, hey babe what are you doing here?  He's says "funny, I want to ask you the same thing".  I stand there shaking.  He jumps off his tailgate where he was sitting,  bare chested and good looking, with his arms crossed, and puts his arms out and calls to me, come over here baby girl.  I usually love the nickname but not today.  I start to cry, happy he is acting loving but still worried.  I hesitate, he says again, come over here! I walk over and he pulls me close to him, unties the towel from my waist and holds me with his hands around my lower back, his fingers resting on the top of my butt.  I prayed he didn't decide to punish me right there and then, it would be so humiliating as people walked to their cars.  He hugged me tight, kissed my face, which was wet with salty tears.  I said to him, "am I in trouble"?  He shook his head Yes.  I start to cry harder.  Please babe, I am so sorry, I wont ever do this again.  He puts his finger to his lip to shoosh me and saids you need to get in your car, go straight home, shower, dry your hair and get dressed for bed.  I will be along shortly after I drop off this estimate.  I drove home, sick with anticipation of what was going to happen when he got home.  I cried as I showered because I knew I was in for it.  He would not tolerate outright disobedience.  I got ready for bed in a long T-shirt and panties.  I heard him come in and open the refrigerator, and get something out.  It was complete torture.  I heard him come up the stairs, I felt like I would die.  He came into the bedroom, started emptying his pockets on the nightstand.  Took off he belt, OMG I was so nervous even though he had never spanked me with a belt, yet anyway.  He came over and sat on the bed and called me over.  I didn't move.  He said those dreaded words. "Don't make me come over and get you".  I jump up and start pleading, baby please I'm so sorry.  He said "oh babe not as sorry as your going to be, I promise you".  I then stood in front of him, he said do you know why your getting a licking?  I said cause I went to the beach, and lied to you about what I was doing.  He said exactly.  He then pulled up my T-shirt, pulled down my panties, held both my  wrists in one hand and started spanking me hard at least 10 times.  My butt was on fire.  He stood me up, pulled up my panties and said now get in bed, your punished for the night.  He hugged me, I didn't hug back.  He said may this be a lesson - what happens to girls who disobey. 
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To really hurt that bad?

Lol that's sounds exciting

if you're okay with it why not? My husband spanks me too for disobeying, lying, and getting snappy.

You're an adult, who the hell is he to punish you? I would call this consensual abuse.

It's called S&M if she likes it and wants it. Something like this is a problem when one person in a couple forces their will over the other and it's not agreed upon. If she likes what he's doing then it's not abuse.

You have to understand the dynamics of their relationship. This is not abuse by a long shot. This is love on a very deep and trusting level.

He let you off easy. I would have given a lot more

It's a spanking!! Lol spankings are good for women. They help us release and feel cared about. Women need to know their man cares about their actions and them! He didn't want her getting mugged, or raped at this beach! The spanking was for her own good!

My wife would beat his *** with a black iron frying pan when he fell asleep. then he could find himself someone else to spank.....

You better beat his *** honey! That is illegal for him to beat you like that! You should not believe him when he says he loves you. He is a liar. That is not what happens to girls who disobey. Either call the cops, get a restraining order, or straight up beat his *** and make him leave.

She says she love it.. ailright? That might be sexual, so be open minded dude

What she has described IS NOT's abuse........

It's consensual idiot.

Consensual spanking, yes. Consensual beating, Hell No

It's not consensual it's stupid you're the idiot wanting to be hurt for " love " open your eyes! No one should spank anyone unless it's your parents!

That is what I'm trying to tell these sex crazed idiots!

It's not sexual it's abuse!

Thanks for posting this so I didn't have to. This is exactly right.

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That is pure stupid! People are being abused and forced to have sex and you want that?

I understand let it nice and easy don't dump it honey

MY bf loves to spank me he usualy spanks me n makes me sit for 10 mins than comforts me

Duh! He only comforts you so you won't call the cops.

Is it illegal to spank your children too? Lol Geeze people it's called a man being a man let him spank her

It's not being a man, it's being a b*stard and children is for disobedience. Spanking children is okay you idiots!

So, do you still go to the beach when you feel like it? Are you more careful about not getting caught?

Don't just be careful, kick him to da curb! Beat dat b**tch

i really want to be spanked and dominated by a strong both body and minded boyfriend too.

Shut up. Dat is stupid. Read da Bible. God doesn't want his children to be spanked! Take a hint.

Wait. Your boyfriend forces you to tell him everything you are doing, doesn't allow you to do what you want, and than punishes you if you disobey? Something about that seems wrong. I am assuming you are a grown woman. Why are you letting your boyfriend push you around like this? You make it seem what he did was right. This looks to me like a stereotypical case of domestic abuse.

or discipline. What is your issue if this the lifestyle they have chosen. As long as they don't introduce their kids into spanking. I have no issues with it.

Pure Dam* stupid

Ten times? That's all? You're lucky!

STFU! She isn't lucky to be spanked once. Take a hint or shut up!

I would have given you at least three times as much for such disobedience. You would have done the spanky dance, believe me, with your panties around your ankles...

you spank your girlfriend too?

Of course. Female buttocks are made for that.

They are not! We are not suppose to abuse people! STFU!

If you don't like stuff like this then why read the post . why are u even in this section and stop telling people stfu I know abuse is wrong but this is not abuse if u say this is abuse and u agree parents should spank their kids then wouldn't that be abuse too? Also If u say god doesn't want his children spanked then why do u want parents to spank their kids u sound stupid .


Fuc* you why would you abuse someone? Humans are going to sin! Read the bible dumba*s

Go to h*ll! Oh wait, you already are! For spanking your partner!

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i am so much happier when my husband shows me how strong he is. it allows me to become soft and female. it feels so very right to me.

You need a therapist. Being beaten doesn't make us feminine, being strong women does. Treat yourself right for once. Stop being naive!

she is lucky to have a man that will make her obey him like you do. Many men could take lessons from you

Shut up! Women are suppose to be submissive not slaves!

What a nice story he was really sweet to you considering. I hope you listen better.

Who the **** gave you that idea? The Lord didn't. Beating people isn't considerate. He shouldn't have been so controlling anyway. If he hadn't been so controlling of her. Ladies, treat yourselves right and get a real man, one who DOES NOT BEAT YOU!

You will have a long and happy marriage my dear. Finding a man who knows his role is the hardest part with all the weak submissive men walking about. It's easy to find a man who will spank your bum during sex play, but a man who will dish out real punishment whether you cry or not? You have a gem mate. A very strong man who cares more about you & your relationship than bowing down to you. I got the belt once whilst caught red handed in a lie, I've never lied to my husband since and never will. Nor will I ever doubt his authority or love for me.

yeah. true!. ur the very lucky one.i hope i am that lucky..........................................

Not so lucky when your stupid *ss boyfriend is in h*ll and you're found in a dumpster ten miles from your city!

Not true, you won't have a happy marriage at all, you will be found dead in a trash bag five miles from your house!

Thanks for sharing I hope you have learned

She doesn't need to learn, she needs to stop being naive and find a real man, or else he might just use the sharpest knife in your kitchen to cut you and dump you in one of
his friend's dumpsters

I find it amazing that people, especially men, let their wives run over them. This is what the world is coming to and why the divorce rate is sky high. If my wife disobey she better believe that she'd be over my knee getting her butt busted with a hairbrush. Women are designed to be submissive and men to lead and take charge. How can a home run if no one is on charge, and how can someone be in charge with no way to punishment bad behavior. My wife knows that if she acts up, I will not hesitate to dish out some spankings.

I always show her how much I love her by keeping her in line with spankings.

With some wives it wouldn't work, I'm glad it works with yours. A woman's bare butt is the best way to keep a marriage well-balanced. Even though that butt may be a little sore sometimes...

if she agrees with that no problem. If she doesn't you can end up in jail.

The ideal man in a dd relationship is a very loving man who provides strong emotional and material support, leaving no doubt he is your man - and is firm, pitiless, and totally dominating when it comes to erotic or punitive spankings. Your *** has to hurt when you're spanked, that's your fate as a female in a relationship of this type. In exchangem you are loved, supported, and encouraged to be yourself - except that you will be spanked at least once a week,

He's very loving just not during punishments, like me he's new to dd and he must think that's how it's supposed to be.

If he is mean, you may want to reconsider a new boyfriend

My fiancé is a lot like this except for not as loving :( when I'm in trouble I'm in trouble he's mean to me for the next few hours and orders me around he doesn't hold me nicely afterwards.

you deserved it and i'm sure you had all day to think about it.

I would never have my boyfriend if he did not spank me!

I can't imagine being in a long term relationship with a man who didn't spank me.

I am very much in favor of spanking women bareass, erotically mostly, but punitively for important transgressions. By hand - I think there has to be a direct connection between the spanker and the spankee. However, if at 40 you accept being belted for a problem of beach, there's something very wrong somewhere - or extremely immature.

You got what you earned dear. I hope you learned.

I wish i could find a man like that

I have to agree with him being im a submissive and ive learned not to disobey

I think he truly loves you and wants you to be safe dear. It was a sweet story

this sounds like domestic violence to me. so that means that every time you do something he doesn't like he's going to spank you or do you even something worst?a loving relationship is based on communication and not by being controlling and possessive.

You sound like feminist to me. I think she meant: Everytime she does someting he has forbidden.

I would LOVE to find a guy like that:-(

I love it!!! I can't wait to make mistakes so I can get spankings. Turns me on! When I get emotional and needy, he know what I really need.

I wish my boy friend would spank me

Change boyfriends. Lots of us like to spank our females.

That sounds so sexy. I wish my boyfriend did this!

Only 10? Your butt deserved at least 25...

Can some one please explain to me why a woman would want to get spanked by her partner? I understand that this is a way of life that both partners agree to and that it is somehow good for the relationship and is how conflicts get resolved, but I still don't get how.

omg that would suck. i have seen niko and he truely scares me.

This story was written by somebody into the domestic discipline this lifestyle a man heads the house, dominates the woman and punishes her by spanking, in the same way he would punish his child. Both parties are turned on by the idea. Most people get turned on by reading stories like this, writing them, and watching clips like this. For example, theres a whole community of people online who live this lifestyle, and even tape it for others in that community to see -the sites look up niko in the search. Some girls like oral sex, some girls like sex, and then there are some girls who like the idea of getting their butt beat by a dominant man. So save the domestic abuse, victim advice for a girl who really needs it, this girl isjust sharing her fetish/lifestyle

Very well written enjoyed it :) r u one that likes this style n do u get spanked? Ty spnkbooty


If I did anything like this to a girlfriend, I'd just get dumped. ^^

What the hell he wouldn't do that to me. Your a grown woman go wherever you want. It's he cares but he's not your father. Tell him you don't like it if he respects you he will understand if not break up with him.

But she doesn,t want to. She enjoys shaking an trembling as she knows the slaps on her butt will come, and the pleasure of being quietened and probably ****** afterwards.

I agree with gumshoe 100 percent. How the hell is being "disciplined" and punished by any man, when ur a grown woman, ever ok? This is abuse. The day that I would ever allow a man to tell me where I can and can't go, how to talk, let alone spank me, will be a very cold day in hell. I was not raised like this, I am independent, if I want to go somewhere, I go. If any man ever tried to strike me, he would live to regret it.

you do realize it's a consensual lifestyle right? They make each other happy that way.

My boyfriend spanked me the other day for disrespecting him. He pulled down my panties, and spanked me over his knee until I was crying so hard.. He told me to stop crying or I'd be spanked again.<br />
Later that same night his mother and step father came over and I was being punished in our room. well, I came out to say hi (trying to not be rude) and he spanked me again in front of them and made me stand in the corner with my naked red butt out for them to see. Hos mother asked why I was being punished and when John said I disrespected him and them didn't follow my punishment rules she placed me over her knee. She spanked me for at least 20 minutes and I had to sleep on the couch naked. The next morning I was woken up by another spanking and corner time.

I don't understand how u can let ur boyfriend spank u in front of his mother, and then she spanks u? What is the point of that? How does a man and his mother assaulting u help the relationship?

I agree with rbn, that's just messed up. Why do you let him do that?

Wow u got a real good spanking from him n his mom ouch! Does his mom still spank u ? Ty spnkbooty

That supposed story is plain stupid!

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Disobediency is women nature from the dawn of civilisation. Thats why we are EVE. we are cursed by the GOD and dominated my hasbands.<br />
Who are experienced in spanking know better, how arroused they turn on during spanking,<br />
I experience ****** Too.<br />
I like to know from other women who get regular spanking in home or out of home.

You are crazy! You like his controlling, manipulative ways? You like walking on eggshells? He loves control & not you. If you like acting & feeling like a subservient little mouse, then go for it. I'm telling you from experience, it WILL get worse!

He sounds like a weirdo. Get away from him. Before he does something more violent.

Great Point Gumshoe. If you allow yourselves to be treated this way you are pretty much admitting you can't take care of yourselves. This gives people reasons to say that women are not independent, cannot make decisions, and can't live normal lives without help from men. I don't agree with that at all, but you aren't helping the fight for equal treatment of woman.

Medina: Very well said!! Now, if this girlfriend 'likes" being spanked, ie: has a fetish, which is quite common, then, OK, lady go forth and keep your controlling, (imho: abusive)
BF. So, what is not clear here is IF she WANTS a controlling, abusive, fetish filled existence, then "carry on".

HMMM: Has he ever spanked you with a paddle? It's a VERY different feel. Lots of spanko/s prefer the wood to the strap. (It's a very personal preference).

In any case, please try to be careful, and DISCERN whether your BF is truly loving or a control freak.
Best of luck.


Great Point Gumshoe. If you allow yourselves to be treated this way you are pretty much admitting you can't take care of yourselves. This gives people reasons to say that women are not independent, cannot make decisions, and can't live normal lives without help from men. I don't agree with that at all, but you aren't helping the fight for equal treatment of woman.

Why on earth are fully grown women being treated like children??? <br />
When you become an adult, you SHOULD take responsibility for your life. These men do NOT know better than you. I certainly wouldn't trust the judgement of any man. If my husband tried this **** on me, I would punch him square in the face!

And due to this attitude, you will never know real peace with a man. Your relationships will always be mixed with strife. Good luck and best wishes in life, You will need it!

In order to have real peace with a man, you have to allow him to demean you??? Wow! That is REALLY disrespectful to men. I don't know what circles you live in, but I have never known a mature man whom would ever hit a woman.

Because basicly they are scared by feministic laws treating domestic discipline like domestic violence.

I agree with gumshoejane2, if finding peace is in being abused by man then what is the point of that peace...

While I disagree that every man should be in control and every woman should be "under" a man. I think spanking is good for some people men and women. If you disagree stay out of groups about adults getting spanked.

consentual lifestyle? have you heard of that for crying out loud.

sensible answer.

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i DON'T THINK he was to har don you at all sounds like he just used his hand but took his belt off to scare you? My b/f spanks me often sometimes for play but at least once a mo for disc about with his hand belt or a paddle which really hurts and gets me crying

Thanks for your comment GirlTeen.....yes he definitely cares...sometimes it feels like a little too much!! We have been together for several years now and he is the first guy I had ever been with that gives me so much attention....most of it very positive. He is always concerned with my needs, wants and desires. He is loving but also makes it clear what behavior will not be accepted. He was very upfront with the fact that he has a very in charge personality and needs to be the dominant figure in the relationship which I agreed to. Some days I find it difficult when I want my way about something and he tells me No....and I can't challenge him or he will punish me.....and I know how much his punishments sting. Most times I can avoid a licking but there have been times when my mouth has gotten me in trouble and I always regret not having shut up while I had the chance.....I hope your boyfriend is able to someday give you the attention and caring you need:-)

I feel the same. I love my husband's dominate personality. But hate when I want something my way and he says NO. However, I think for most of time, I just enjoy to let him care for me and guide me. So I guess I can make some compromises :-)

Pray about it your relationship is toxic

care for you and guide you??? Are you 3 years old? Is he your father??? This is pathetic!

Please do not judge a TIH relationship until you get a complete understanding. This is a choice we have all made only to be understood by those in it. Oh and yes I call my husband daddy along with our 7 kids and yes I am his baby, wife, little girl, etc. Pathetic is only a woman wanting to be the same as a man. We were born woman to bear children and provide for our families a gift no man will ever have. I must say had I done this I would have gotten 25 with a paddle if not more. They want to know where we are for our safety.

some people need guidance regardless of age you know.

He doesn't care he only wants to hurt you! If he loved you, he wouldn't beat you.

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I love it how this shows care, id love my boyfriend to show he cared

You a da*n lie and he is too! He doesn't love you honey! Get a reality check before he kills you!

I came close a couple weeks ago to another butt warming because my boyfriend "hates" gossiping and of course when we got together with two other couples we (the girls) were talking about another woman who has gotten together with us in the past because her husband is friends with the guys so we have no choice but to tolerate her but she is not very well liked by the we were "discussing" some of the things that we find really irritating and I was chiming in with the others my opinion and my boyfriend didn't say a word but just stood up, took me by the hand, and walked into the kitchen, where he quietly whispered in my ear that if he heard me make one more nasty comment about anyone he would bare my *** in front of everyone and put some real heat on my seat........needless to say I was as quiet as a church mouse the rest of the night.....The next day one of the woman who was there called me and said "what happened when you and Jay walked into the kitchen - you looked like you saw a ghost"....Hahaha lets just say, I know from past experience he means business so I wasn't taking any chances.....

You shouldn't have to be scared kick HIS ***, BEAT HIS ***, SHOW HIM YOU MEAN BUSINESS!

He sounds like he cares about you atleast.

He doesn't care he wants to control her.

I changed my username......this is my story. I can attest, it is as real as it gets!! Luckily, I have only found myself over his knee on a few occasions because believe me he puts a sting on my butt like noone ever has......he also has a long fuse, but there have been a few occasions including the beach where he sent a message loud and clear for behaviors he simply won't tolerate. I love him very much, and love his masculinity and in "charge" personality. Although I don't relish the punishment, it works for us.

Treat yourself right honey, ant get a restraining order, beat his a**, or get the cops! He doesn't love you he only wants to control you, but guess what he ain't the boss!

Hope it's real. I am grounded for a whole week. And I got spanked last night with a loopy jonny and spent corner time two nights in a row. My spanking and corner time is over but I can't go anywhere or see anybody till this coming Wednesday. Going to bed early would have been a lot easier to deal with. I lve the story though.

Hot. Is this real or fantasy?

This is not hot, it is sad.