My Recent Experiences Of Debates Turning Into Arguments

Recently, I have suddenly somehow found myself in the midst of a full blown argument with several people. This seems to happen to me online so much more than in my everyday life. I think it must have something to do with not being able to see the person you are interacting with and not connecting with their emotions. I feel like I always try to respect other people's opinions as long as they are respectful of mine. The last couple of times that I've tried to talk to people, they ended up bringing in all sorts of personal issues that had nothing to do with the real topic. This always annoys me, as I can never understand why it has to turn into a personal attack rather than a calm discussion of different points of view. I like to express my opinions and I like to discuss the merits of other people's opinions. Maybe I am seeking out difficult people on purpose subconsciously. I think sometimes I just feel a need to attack people who are attacking others or who are being ignorant, insensitive or generalizing too much. I don't know what it is, but I can't let it rest if someone starts making things personal. I find it so hard to just recognize that nothing good will come of continuing and that I should just stop. Every new comment is a new provocation. Sometimes I know that a person is not going to see where I am coming from, but I continue anyway. Then they start accusing me of having been raped as a child or something. It's always something stupid that has nothing to do with the real topic. I'm fed up with people who can't just be nice. I've had pleasant discussions with people where both of us had strong opinions and neither person got angry, so I know that it is definitely possible. Why is it so rare though?
Veryrandomgirl8 Veryrandomgirl8
22-25, F
Jan 22, 2013