But So Much More Than That I Want To Want Someone Tooas a friend, a lover, a whatever:
I prefer being wanted over needed especially romantically.
a need to me signifies lack of a choice whereas being wanted shows there is a choice being made to want you. The fact that a guy chooses to want me means more than a guy who needs me.
I don't want to be in their life to fill a void I want to be in their life to enhance it. I think there's more dignity in wanting than in needing as well, as well as a little bit less selfishness to be honest. wanting someone seems to put less strain on a person than needing them.
I want it to be mutual as well though, it's not always like that.
I'm not saying being needed is so bad, but in a lover and a partner in crime I would rather want someone and be wanted by someone.
I've been told by a guy that he needed me too soon before and that he loved me and it was the biggest red flag I've ever seen.
i don't know if I've really wanted to be attached to someone before, well in that way. it doesn't mean I don't want to though. I have been in relationships where they just fizzle pretty early on, I just tend to get bored of the guy, I don't know what it is. My longest "relationship" was just between me and a friend who we were only "dating" to keep a stalker who I didn't want to have anything to do with at bay (which worked, see good male pals have uses :P )
I'm not cynical of love, I just don't know what it is with me. I'm 26 years old and I've never really wanted someone. (kind of breaks my heart) who am I waiting for?
I find want to be more desirable to me than need.
just my views.
wack1985 31-35, F 0 Sep 16, 2011