... Or Have I Just Not Worked Out How to Talk Yet?

In conversation, I'm pretty much always the listener. In some ways, I think that's just because I'm inclined that way - interested in what people have to say,have a knack for listening well, and am happy to keep myself concealed.

It's probably been exagerated by the training I've had in listening, which sounds odd, but there are definitely different levels of skill when it comes to listening to people, and different ways of listening - listening empathically, listening to elicit specific hidden information, and even listening as a form of healing.

They're all very rewarding, although I do find it difficult to transfer those more advanced forms of listening ability out of the professional sphere.

It's always easier when there's no personal involvement - professional empathy is deep and true and profound... but it's a one way street.



TheTardyDodo TheTardyDodo
31-35, M
2 Responses Jun 6, 2007

Sounds like maybe you are afraid to be heard? Or unsure of what to really say to the person that sits and listens to you? It is a two way street when its personal, instead of professional. And as great as the joy is in helping someone professionally, it`s that joy magnified when your personal interactions have that depth of listening. Personal involvements are deep and true and profound. And a two-way street. =1

silly bird, can you help me understand why it seems some docs 'act' like they care when in all reality they don't? you can tell by their body language, the way they interrupt, the way they assume they know certain things that you had no idea about and only confuse the patient further, the way they subtley don't listen while staring at you with this concerned look they have given the 40 other patients they saw that day, the way they rush in, look at their watch 30 seconds into the exam and rush out .... UGH! why do they never say what they truly mean? i'm not sure if you're a doc but it sounds like you're in this 'world' from your stories. i've had LOTS of experiences with docs - some good, some not so good, some terrible, and some fantastic. yet i don't understand why anyone so disinterested in their patients would continue in an unfulfilling career having taken an oath (or whatever) to care for people ... it makes no sense to me. i've got a 'condition' and it's a difficult and rather rare sort of deal. it's incurable shy of a miracle. anyway ... it seems after so long docs give up on me as if to say, "since you aren't going to progress any further, if i continue to treat you it will affect my success rate. please exit first door to your left." any ideas here?