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How Many Is Too Many

I was very sexually active in my early twenties and I have recently discovered that the number of my past sexual partners is considered by most to be very high. I want to know how many sexual partners is considered too many. No flowery comments just numbers people. I am not ashamed and seeking peace. I am just curious. So chime in and lets hear some numbers.
LSUhotwife LSUhotwife 46-50, F 94 Responses Mar 31, 2012

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For most people, more than 5 or 10 is a lot - too many! But to use high sexed people, it;s not even getting started.

It's all about what is right for you. If it feels good to you (and it is not hurting anyone else) then go for it and enjoy. No one else has the right to tell you what that number should be.

How many is too many? I see you only used words to describe on the high side. What's your number???? It's ok, I'm smiling for you already...

Interesting. At lunch a half dozen of us (wild & crazy) girls sat & worked out the mathametic problem. (not that it was a problem at all).
Each of us is now in our 30's from the same overall area; we all talk about (sex) this stuff on a regular basis. Each of us went to college, was very 'ACTIVE' with relationships & did not get married until sometime after college was finished.

What a great topic. The laughter at the table was louder than ever & constant throughout lunch.
"Total honesty now, write your best estimate number down on a napkin & drop it in this box. There are no winners, there are no loosers, so come on now do your best remberiance & analysis".

Were not looking for the total sex acts, we want the total # of different male and/or female partners you preformed the sex act with. Not just kissing & holding hands but the real thing. Include each & every male/female partner from your first all the way up to your last (your husband if that is so ///// even more laughter came out)
We could tell we are from a new era of sexual female characters in our society.
The range of active years (from teenager until now..including each of us) is pretty constant, between 16 to 21 years of activity.
Our numbers (best/honest calculations) ranged from 55 to 235

Wow, our faces were red but we loved every minute of it!!!!!!

Lot doffing and enjoyment. There is never enough


I sleepwalk, and apparently sleep...other things as well. If it weren't for a friend at the end of freshman year of college, I would not be aware of it, just think that when I crashed in chicks dorms, they gave me strange smiles in the morning, or there was a big rush because their boyfriend was visiting.

I am ashamed to admit that I have lost count! College was very good to me and ever since I turned 35, I have found my sex drive to have increased


Thousand four hundred and seven.

My wife has been with more than 1thousand men. More than twenty of them after we were married.

age 66 and only had 4 guess I blew it someplace

For me - over 100
My wife-50 men & 20 women
Stepsister 100 men & 25 women
Mother was over 100
Former fiancé over 300
Our hair stylist claims 1000 men mostly oral.
All these are over 50 yrs old.

****. You guys are ****** lmaoo

Well.. Okay I've been with my boyfriend for over a year. But I am young.. And so far I have slept with 7 guys total. I have friends my age that have slept with double that. Like, 14 and 18 partners.. You are a grown woman. I would say like 30 partners is normal for your age and a life time. Lmao. It sounds like alot.. But it's not really...

It is totally time dependent...four a year when single seems to be about the typical average...I was at 6 by the time freshmen year finished and was around 20 by the time college was I'm around 50.

Lol.. I'm single now.

Ain't no TOO MANY.

My wife was a virgin when we married but she made up for lost time afterwards. She averaged 5 or 6 guys a year for 25 years or so but it has slowed to 2 or 3 over the last 5 years.


I'm a fan of variety. With that being said, it's a lot easier for a girl to **** when ever she wants than it is for a guy ;)

I'm 30 years old and somewhere around 150. I actually remembered all their names until 75...


Let me add one more to your total.

About 8-10 per yr for the last 30 yrs and still enjoy every new experience....

30-40 wonderful ladies... I dunno, that never seemed like enough, lol.

For Asian, 10 partners in one's whole life is also considered high.

well if my wife had 150 before we were married that would be great, but to bad not so. I think the more a person can learn and the more fun they have the better it is.

Age should be part of the number. If you are 18, and you have had 30 lovers, that is high. If you are 40 and have been single for most of your adult life, 30 isn't high.

I would say if you have had more than one lover per month past the age of 20, you have had too many lovers.

Well over 100 stopped counting long ago

55 females! And growing!

There are never too many. A person learns from every experience!

At present maybe 150 female & 30 male (both ways for males) and planning to add lots more as everything in good working order and according to the vast majority of partners well worth the effort

150 +, what can i say i like to ****

16 intercourse, (14 women and two men), given one blow job and received a blow job from the same guy, I can name 12 of those 16, the others were prostitutes in another country. Have made out with 150+ other women and 10 or so men. I think my biggest issue personally isn't the number as much as will I be able to satisfy my partner and so far never been with one that didn't ask for seconds. They say I am very gentle and attentive and that is what means the most to them, in conclusion I think over 25 is above ave and over 50 is a lot. Just my opinion and I am 38 and traveled for 16 years of my life