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Just Friends

Do you think men and women can ever be "just friends"? My daily experience suggests that non-romantic friendships between males and females are not only possible, but common, men and women live, work, and play side-by-side and generally seem to be able to avoid spontaneously sleeping together. I have several platonic friendships with men.

A platonic friendship brings together people of the opposite sex and joins them in the strong bond of friendship. A person does not have to be your boyfriend or girlfriend to be your companion. Opposite sex individuals can share laughs and tears and develop lifelong platonic friendships

"Portrait of a Friend"

I cant give solutions to all of life's problems, doubts,
or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
search for answers.

I can't change your past with all it's heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.

I cant keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you,
and help you when you ask.

I cant prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, from me.
I can only pray for you, talk to you and wait for you.

I cant give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.

I cant keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.

I cant tell you who you are.
I can only love you and be your friend.
~Unknown

deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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I think there is some kind of tension between all men and women. So, a man and a woman can be good friends but they should not be naive and try to act as the friendship was like between two men or two women. Usually it will not work like that. And usually just a need to emphasize that we are "just-friends" tells that there is at least a possibility of some kind of an affair.

I have a long time friendship with a woman. We had some kind of affair for a couple of years ago. We did not date in dating sense or anything like that, but for a short time I could note that the atmosphere was more dense with her than earlier or later. I think it was a necessary phase. While I am married, we somehow had to try if we could something-more-than-just-friends. Well, it would not have worked. It became clear that our personalities are too different to work in a close relationship. We can talk about anything and we can stand each other's misbehavior and because we meet or chat quite often we sometimes talk like a married couple. So, we are friends. I am married, she is trying to find a man. We are not just-friends. We are friends that know that any affair will not work. It was tested, though very discreetly.

An inspiring story, thank you for sharing. I see my EP SO Classicality7 posted also. So much of what you wrote describes our relationship.

That is wonderful! Thank you for sharing it with us here on EP.

I think the trick is that people both male and female hope that a friendship will develop into more just friends. they think if you really get to know them that an intimate relationship will develop. This is not always the way it is but often it is.