Do You Share What You Watch And Read With Your Partner?

I guess you could say I am a lot more shy than my bf. A few times when I was on his laptop I noticed he visited some **** sites. I got curious, so when I came home I looked at the same stuff, mainly wanting to see what he liked, but then got into some of it myself.

Problem is though, that most of that stuff has overly enthusiastic, loud women who have had plastic surgery, and the sex is kind of ... just sex. There is very little emotion in it otherwise. So I prefer reading stories...

Anyway, have any of you ladies ever shared that kind of stuff with your man? How did they take it?
Men, what would your take be if a woman sent you what she liked?
Nostalgia86 Nostalgia86
22-25, F
9 Responses Aug 4, 2010

Well well well!<br />
I must peddle back on my hesitance in this area. I am so glad that I sent him that story I liked. Now we write scenarios to each other, watch stuff together, and even 'compose' things together while driving. It's great.<br />
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Paladin - I like to think I'm patient. Hopefully he thinks so too...<br />
He's really great though, I know he puts in a lot of effort to keep me satisfied. I think one of the things I like most about him is his spontaneity. We could be driving somewhere, and he'll pull off into an area nobody can see and all of a sudden...<br />
Or he'll whisper stuff in my ear during a movie.<br />
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Slowly I am shedding my shyness with him!!

Perhaps you should find some good amateur **** that reflects your desires and store some on his laptop or in his favourites for him to find.

You sound like a very patient lover. I like that.

Hmm..<br />
I never thought of that. Sometimes when he is away for work for a while, and we have sex when he comes back, he always warns me that he is not going to last a long time and I always say "that's ok". Though I see him trying to slow down or just not ***, and I keep telling him to relax.<br />
Other times it takes him forever to come and I get sore lol. Ahh...the happy medium.

He may have been using the TV as a distraction technique. Women often don't realize that we sometimes have to concentrate on NOT having an ******. You know, thinking about baseball, that problem at work, and yes, even the TV on occasion.

HAha..I am actually quite shy, and it is almost always him that starts any of our intimate moments. I started to do that more though since I felt more confident. I just noticed that he would ask me about what I like to do alone and he asked me if I watch ****, that kind of thing, it seemed to turn him on. I don't really watch **** though.<br />
Also now that the tv subject came up, your comment reminded me of a time when we were making out and the tv was on to hide any noises that might come from our room. I don't even remember if we were just starting out or what...but at one point I was using my hands on his member and I looked up and saw that he was glancing over my shoulder. Tbh now that I remember it , makes me very upset :( I don't even remember how I justified it to myself then, or if we even talk about it or if I made a fuss. THAT's how women are! You make one wrong and it stays in our hearts forever :P (but really that is very hurtful)

Nostalgla, if his opinion of you is reduced because you sent him a sexy story then it's time to move on because he's an asshat! I've never met a man that said his woman was "too much" in the bedroom. I'm sure there are some, but it's gotta be pretty rare. The more enthusiastic the better. Now I will say most men don't want their women being slutty/sexy in general, just slutty/sexy for them! ;)

Thanks for your input. Now, err...<br />
Do you think it would somehow put me down in his eyes? I think in some ways we as women are expected to be all puritanical and never admit to anything like this.<br />
Thing is, the story I sent him is loving and sexual, but it's not hardcore. I just thought it would bring us closer together.

I think most men would be very happy if a woman sent them anything that would show they are enthusiastic about sex, in whatever form, story, pictures, video, etc. That's not a very common occurrence, in my experience.