I Like Wearing Bikinis
How I Got Into Counselling Women And Girls About Bikinis And Swimsuits
By:
Firmmindedwoman
Written on November 5th, 2012
It is almost 10 years ago that it happened that I first had to deal with a case that involved “BIKINIS”; I was at the time primarily a marriage guidance counsellor that is helping couples overcome marital problems.
Anyway this couple who were both in their twenties came to see me for counselling as they were having a problem. As a whole I could see that although they had a problem they did actually love each other very deeply.
As whole she dressed very smartly and in fact quite modestly, the problem turned out to be the summer, or rather what the wife wore, her bikini. The wife loved wearing the STRING BIKINI style. Her husband absolutely hated the thought of her wearing them, and that every man who cared to look on the beach or pool, could see as the husband put it “WHAT ONLY HE AS HER HUSBAND SHOULD SEE”, basically he thought her string bikini revealed far too much of his wife.
THE WIFE AS SHE USED TO BE
The husband was very uncomfortable about his wife being willing to show so much of herself to all and sundry, and yes slightly insecure about himself, but most of this came back to his wife as he put it “PARADING IN HER BIKINI”.
At the time we were fast approaching the husband’s dreaded time, the summer so although this was too say the least slightly unfamiliar territory for me I knew I had to come up with a very swift and effective plan of action to help them both.
It was the third session with them by then, and it was then that I first asked the wife the question,
“WOULD YOU GO OUT IN PUBLIC IN YOUR BRA AND PANTIES?”
Her answer was an empathic “NO”.
WHEN I ASK HER WHY SHE WOULD NOT DO SO?”
Her reply was that it simply would not be proper to do so, as that would put too much of her on public display.
My next question was simple. “SO WHAT SO IS DIFFERENT ABOUT WEARING A BIKINI, IT IS BASICALLY YOUR UNDERWEAR THAT YOU ARE WEARING AT THE BEACH OR POOL?”
The wife looked at me, but did not answer.
But I could see that by her expression I had hit home with her, and ask her another question.
“DO YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR HUSBAND, AND DO YOU LOVE HIM ENOUGH TO CHANGE THE SWIMSUIT YOU WEAR?”
She looked at me then at her husband, and then back at me and the next question came from her, “HOW DO I CHANGE, I AM JUST SO USED TO WEARING BIKINIS?”
Simple I said looking at both of them, you both go shopping for your new swimwear together and pick out something that you both like and agree on. I looked at my diary and said to them your next session with me is in a week and a half from now. So let’s make that your goal that before then you go shopping together for the new swimwear for summer.
It was then that the wife looked at me and said, “WHAT ABOUT MY BIKINIS!”
I did not quite know what she was saying and anyway before I had time to answer she continued, “I DO NOT KNOW THAT I COULD TRUST MYSELF NOT TO WEAR THE BIKINIS, IF THEY ARE STILL THERE AND AVAILIBLE TO BE WORN, I WILL NEED HELP NOT TO WEAR THEM”.
I do not still know why I did this to this day, but I said “PACK THEM UP AND BRING THE BIKINIS ALONG TO THE NEXT SESSION AND I WILL SEE WHAT I CAN DO TO HELP YOU WITH THEM”.
I was thinking, three or four bikinis, take them and store them, in the cupboard. But the reality turned out a whole lot different a session four, they arrived with the husband carrying a fairly sizeable holdall, they promptly both then each holding one handle as they did so placed it on my desk, the wife then unzipped it and between the two of them they emptied the contents by the handful onto my desk, and when they had done the wife said “MY BIKINIS”.
I was almost dumbstruck by the amount there were, picked up and looked at a couple of the bikinis, at which point the wife said, “I HAVE TIED THE TOPS AND BOTTOMS OF EACH BIKINI TOGETHER SO THEY DO NOT GET LOST”.
I then asked them are you sure about giving up all the bikinis? The wife said yes, the husband nodded.
Looking at them I asked them how the shopping trip had gone to buy her NEW SWIMWEAR.
It was the wife that answered, “IT WENT FINE WE BOUGHT TWO NEW SWIMSUITS FOR ME, I DECIDED THAT I REALLY DID NOT NEED MORE THAN THAT.”, then without any prompting form me she asked “WOULD YOU LIKE TO SEE, WHAT WE BOUGHT?”
I agreed to look expecting her to take the swimsuit out of her handbag to show me, but to my surprise she stood up and before I could say anything she had slipped off her dress and standing before me in her NEW SWIMSUIT.
The change of style was complete, she had been a STRING BIKINI wearer, but here she was now standing in front of me in a SWIMDRESS and looking very proud of herself.
HER SWIMDRESS WAS VERY SIMILAR TO THIS ONE.
As she stood there I asked them what they both thought of her NEW SWIMSUIT.
The husband replied that he loved the way his wife looked in it, and although it covered way more of her up, he thought that she looked way sexier in the swimsuit than she had ever looked in the bikinis.
The wife then said that although it had at first felt strange to be that covered up by a swimsuit, she had to admit that now that she had worn the swimsuits to the pool a few times she found them very comfortable, and enjoyed the fact that she could swim, without the fear of “POPPING OUT OF IT” and also that she did not constantly have to adjust it like she had to do in the bikinis.
Then smiling at me she said, “I KNOW HE LOVES ME WEARING IT, HE CAN’T STOP HIMSELF TOUCHING ME WHILE I AM IN THE SWIMSUIT.”
Then she continued, “I THOUGHT ABOUT WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT THE BRA AND PANTIES THING, AND DECIDED THAT YOU WERE RIGHT, I ALSO DECIDED THAT IF I WAS GOING TO CHANGE THE SWIMWEAR THAT I WORE I REALLY WANTED TO DO IT PROPERLY AND WHEN WE WENT SHOPPING AND WE SAW THESE I THOUGHT WHY NOT AND AS SOON AS HE SAW ME IN IT, HE WANTED TO TOUCH ME AND IT MADE ME FEEL SO GOOD, SO IT HAD TO BE THIS.”, and as she said it she looked very lovingly at her husband.
I knew that we had gone a long way to fixing the problem that they were having, and said that it was good to see that they were getting along so much better and that they both wanted each other so much again.
The wife looked at me and asked “THE BIKINIS, WHAT SHOULD WE DO WITH THEM?”
Now where do we go I thought to myself, but thinking quickly again I replied, “WELL I DO NOT THINK WE SHOULD DO ANYTHING TO DRASTIC WITH THE BIKINIS THEMSELVES IMMEDIATELY, WHY DON’T YOU JUST PACK THEM UP FOR THE TIME BEING AND I WILL STORE THEM FOR YOU AND THEN YOU CAN SEE IF YOU CAN ADAPT TO NOT HAVING THEM AT ALL. LET US SEE HOW YOU FEEL BY THE END OF THE SUMMER IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO WEAR THE BIKINIS AGAIN AT THAT POINT, THEN YOU CAN DEAL WITH THEM THEN. THE TWO OF YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT YOU WOULD LIKE DONE WITH THEM IF YOU DECIDE THAT YOU DO NOT NEED OR WANT THE BIKINIS AGAIN.”
The bikinis were packed or rather stuffed back into the holdall and I put them in my office cupboard, fortunately it was a walk in one, well in fact the husband put the bag on the top shelf so it was out of the way and there it would stay for several months to come.
I saw the couple twice more in the next month and they were doing wonderfully together, so much so that I told them that we should stop the sessions, as I felt they did not need them, but did say that if they felt they needed to they could come and see me at anytime. But we did agree that we would have one more after the last day of summer to sort out what they both wanted to do regarding the bikinis.
The summer came and went, I had almost forgotten about the holdall stuffed full of bikinis in my cupboard, when the wife phoned in to make an appointment for them to come and see me.
The appointment date arrived and we sat down and we talked about how things had been going and the wife told me, ABOUT HER FIRST SUMMER WITHOUT A BIKINI, and how much they had both enjoyed their holiday with each other.
It was then that she also told me, “THE BIKINIS WE WOULD LIKE THEM BACK PLEASE.”
I had brought the holdall containing them out and it was sitting behind my desk, so I got up to go fetch it. As I put it down in front of them the wife looked at me and said with a smile, “WE DON’T WANT THEM BACK SO I CAN WEAR THEM” she said reaching into her handbag and then continued as she produced a pair of scissors, “WE HAVE DECIDED THAT MY BIKINIS ARE TO BE CUT UP, EVERY LAST ONE OF THEM IS GOING TO MEET THE SCISSORS, RIGHT HERE AND NOW.”
The husband had opened the holdall and was already holding the first bikini up, the wife looked at me briefly, I nodded to her to go ahead and she started to cut the bikini to bits, half a minute later it was on the floor next to the holdall and had been replaced by another bikini in her husband’s hands, the scissors snipping at it.
Bikini after bikini came out that holdall each meeting with the same fate, the pile of now cut to pieces bikinis growing steadily until the husband said “THIS IS THE LAST BIKINI.”
The scissor’s suddenly stopped; the wife took the bikini from him and then said as she handed the scissors to her husband, then said “OKAY NOW IT IS UP TO YOU, I EITHER HAVE ONE BIKINI OR NO BIKINI, YOU DECIDE WHAT IT SHOULD BE?”
The husband hesitated for a few moments, then looked at the wife and said, “I WOULD LIKE IT TO BE NO BIKINI.”
The wife smiled at him and then said, “I WAS HOPING YOU WOULD SAY NO BIKINI TO ME.” Then very cheekily she smiled at him and continued, “WOULD YOU LIKE TO CUT OR RIP THE BIKINI OFF OF ME AT HOME.”
The love in her eyes for him at that moment was something I will never forget.
“SO WHAT ABOUT IT?” she asked her husband , he looked at her and she said, “THE BIKINI DO YOU WANT TO CUT IT NOW, OR DO YOU WANT TO DO IT AT HOME?”
The husband smiled at her and said “AT HOME”.
The wife held it up briefly and the said, “IT HAS NOT ESCAPED BEING DONE, JUST DELAYED IT A BIT”, as she put the last bikini into her handbag.
The husband was by now stuffing all the bits of very CUT UP BIKINIS back into the holdall, they left soon afterwards and although I have not seen them since, they are still very happily married and now have two very beautiful little girls as the wife still sends me a Christmas card every year.
So basically it was this couple that started it, they were the first on two accounts.
1. THEY WERE THE FIRST PEOPLE I HAD EVER HAD TO COUNSEL ABOUT BIKINIS.
2. IT WAS ALSO THE FIRST TIME THAT I SAT AND WATCHED AS THE BIKINIS WERE DESTROYED IN FRONT OFF ME.
I have now dealt with numerous people relating to the affect of what they wear has on other people, and a good deal has been related in particular to BIKINI AND SKIMPY SWIMSUIT wearing.
I now also counsel girls and women to do with how society perceives you by what clothes you wear and/or how you wear them.
Anyway this couple who were both in their twenties came to see me for counselling as they were having a problem. As a whole I could see that although they had a problem they did actually love each other very deeply.
As whole she dressed very smartly and in fact quite modestly, the problem turned out to be the summer, or rather what the wife wore, her bikini. The wife loved wearing the STRING BIKINI style. Her husband absolutely hated the thought of her wearing them, and that every man who cared to look on the beach or pool, could see as the husband put it “WHAT ONLY HE AS HER HUSBAND SHOULD SEE”, basically he thought her string bikini revealed far too much of his wife.
THE WIFE AS SHE USED TO BE
The husband was very uncomfortable about his wife being willing to show so much of herself to all and sundry, and yes slightly insecure about himself, but most of this came back to his wife as he put it “PARADING IN HER BIKINI”.
At the time we were fast approaching the husband’s dreaded time, the summer so although this was too say the least slightly unfamiliar territory for me I knew I had to come up with a very swift and effective plan of action to help them both.
It was the third session with them by then, and it was then that I first asked the wife the question,
“WOULD YOU GO OUT IN PUBLIC IN YOUR BRA AND PANTIES?”
Her answer was an empathic “NO”.
WHEN I ASK HER WHY SHE WOULD NOT DO SO?”
Her reply was that it simply would not be proper to do so, as that would put too much of her on public display.
My next question was simple. “SO WHAT SO IS DIFFERENT ABOUT WEARING A BIKINI, IT IS BASICALLY YOUR UNDERWEAR THAT YOU ARE WEARING AT THE BEACH OR POOL?”
The wife looked at me, but did not answer.
But I could see that by her ex
“DO YOU REALLY LOVE YOUR HUSBAND, AND DO YOU LOVE HIM ENOUGH TO CHANGE THE SWIMSUIT YOU WEAR?”
She looked at me then at her husband, and then back at me and the next question came from her, “HOW DO I CHANGE, I AM JUST SO USED TO WEARING BIKINIS?”
Simple I said looking at both of them, you both go shopping for your new swimwear together and pick out something that you both like and agree on. I looked at my diary and said to them your next session with me is in a week and a half from now. So let’s make that your goal that before then you go shopping together for the new swimwear for summer.
It was then that the wife looked at me and said, “WHAT ABOUT MY BIKINIS!”
I did not quite know what she was saying and anyway before I had time to answer she continued, “I DO NOT KNOW THAT I COULD TRUST MYSELF NOT TO WEAR THE BIKINIS, IF THEY ARE STILL THERE AND AVAILIBLE TO BE WORN, I WILL NEED HELP NOT TO WEAR THEM”.
I do not still know why I did this to this day, but I said “PACK THEM UP AND BRING THE BIKINIS ALONG TO THE NEXT SESSION AND I WILL SEE WHAT I CAN DO TO HELP YOU WITH THEM”.
I was thinking, three or four bikinis, take them and store them, in the cupboard. But the reality turned out a whole lot different a session four, they arrived with the husband carrying a fairly sizeable holdall, they promptly both then each holding one handle as they did so placed it on my desk, the wife then unzipped it and between the two of them they emptied the contents by the handful onto my desk, and when they had done the wife said “MY BIKINIS”.
I was almost dumbstruck by the amount there were, picked up and looked at a couple of the bikinis, at which point the wife said, “I HAVE TIED THE TOPS AND BOTTOMS OF EACH BIKINI TOGETHER SO THEY DO NOT GET LOST”.
I then asked them are you sure about giving up all the bikinis? The wife said yes, the husband nodded.
Looking at them I asked them how the shopping trip had gone to buy her NEW SWIMWEAR.
It was the wife that answered, “IT WENT FINE WE BOUGHT TWO NEW SWIMSUITS FOR ME, I DECIDED THAT I REALLY DID NOT NEED MORE THAN THAT.”, then without any prompting form me she asked “WOULD YOU LIKE TO SEE, WHAT WE BOUGHT?”
I agreed to look expecting her to take the swimsuit out of her handbag to show me, but to my surprise she stood up and before I could say anything she had slipped off her dress and standing before me in her NEW SWIMSUIT.
The change of style was complete, she had been a STRING BIKINI wearer, but here she was now standing in front of me in a SWIMDRESS and looking very proud of herself.
HER SWIMDRESS WAS VERY SIMILAR TO THIS ONE.
As she stood there I asked them what they both thought of her NEW SWIMSUIT.
The husband replied that he loved the way his wife looked in it, and although it covered way more of her up, he thought that she looked way sexier in the swimsuit than she had ever looked in the bikinis.
The wife then said that although it had at first felt strange to be that covered up by a swimsuit, she had to admit that now that she had worn the swimsuits to the pool a few times she found them very comfortable, and enjoyed the fact that she could swim, without the fear of “POPPING OUT OF IT” and also that she did not constantly have to adjust it like she had to do in the bikinis.
Then smiling at me she said, “I KNOW HE LOVES ME WEARING IT, HE CAN’T STOP HIMSELF TOUCHING ME WHILE I AM IN THE SWIMSUIT.”
Then she continued, “I THOUGHT ABOUT WHAT YOU SAID ABOUT THE BRA AND PANTIES THING, AND DECIDED THAT YOU WERE RIGHT, I ALSO DECIDED THAT IF I WAS GOING TO CHANGE THE SWIMWEAR THAT I WORE I REALLY WANTED TO DO IT PROPERLY AND WHEN WE WENT SHOPPING AND WE SAW THESE I THOUGHT WHY NOT AND AS SOON AS HE SAW ME IN IT, HE WANTED TO TOUCH ME AND IT MADE ME FEEL SO GOOD, SO IT HAD TO BE THIS.”, and as she said it she looked very lovingly at her husband.
I knew that we had gone a long way to fixing the problem that they were having, and said that it was good to see that they were getting along so much better and that they both wanted each other so much again.
The wife looked at me and asked “THE BIKINIS, WHAT SHOULD WE DO WITH THEM?”
Now where do we go I thought to myself, but thinking quickly again I replied, “WELL I DO NOT THINK WE SHOULD DO ANYTHING TO DRASTIC WITH THE BIKINIS THEMSELVES IMMEDIATELY, WHY DON’T YOU JUST PACK THEM UP FOR THE TIME BEING AND I WILL STORE THEM FOR YOU AND THEN YOU CAN SEE IF YOU CAN ADAPT TO NOT HAVING THEM AT ALL. LET US SEE HOW YOU FEEL BY THE END OF THE SUMMER IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO WEAR THE BIKINIS AGAIN AT THAT POINT, THEN YOU CAN DEAL WITH THEM THEN. THE TWO OF YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT YOU WOULD LIKE DONE WITH THEM IF YOU DECIDE THAT YOU DO NOT NEED OR WANT THE BIKINIS AGAIN.”
The bikinis were packed or rather stuffed back into the holdall and I put them in my office cupboard, fortunately it was a walk in one, well in fact the husband put the bag on the top shelf so it was out of the way and there it would stay for several months to come.
I saw the couple twice more in the next month and they were doing wonderfully together, so much so that I told them that we should stop the sessions, as I felt they did not need them, but did say that if they felt they needed to they could come and see me at anytime. But we did agree that we would have one more after the last day of summer to sort out what they both wanted to do regarding the bikinis.
The summer came and went, I had almost forgotten about the holdall stuffed full of bikinis in my cupboard, when the wife phoned in to make an appointment for them to come and see me.
The appointment date arrived and we sat down and we talked about how things had been going and the wife told me, ABOUT HER FIRST SUMMER WITHOUT A BIKINI, and how much they had both enjoyed their holiday with each other.
It was then that she also told me, “THE BIKINIS WE WOULD LIKE THEM BACK PLEASE.”
I had brought the holdall containing them out and it was sitting behind my desk, so I got up to go fetch it. As I put it down in front of them the wife looked at me and said with a smile, “WE DON’T WANT THEM BACK SO I CAN WEAR THEM” she said reaching into her handbag and then continued as she produced a pair of scissors, “WE HAVE DECIDED THAT MY BIKINIS ARE TO BE CUT UP, EVERY LAST ONE OF THEM IS GOING TO MEET THE SCISSORS, RIGHT HERE AND NOW.”
The husband had opened the holdall and was already holding the first bikini up, the wife looked at me briefly, I nodded to her to go ahead and she started to cut the bikini to bits, half a minute later it was on the floor next to the holdall and had been replaced by another bikini in her husband’s hands, the scissors snipping at it.
Bikini after bikini came out that holdall each meeting with the same fate, the pile of now cut to pieces bikinis growing steadily until the husband said “THIS IS THE LAST BIKINI.”
The scissor’s suddenly stopped; the wife took the bikini from him and then said as she handed the scissors to her husband, then said “OKAY NOW IT IS UP TO YOU, I EITHER HAVE ONE BIKINI OR NO BIKINI, YOU DECIDE WHAT IT SHOULD BE?”
The husband hesitated for a few moments, then looked at the wife and said, “I WOULD LIKE IT TO BE NO BIKINI.”
The wife smiled at him and then said, “I WAS HOPING YOU WOULD SAY NO BIKINI TO ME.” Then very cheekily she smiled at him and continued, “WOULD YOU LIKE TO CUT OR RIP THE BIKINI OFF OF ME AT HOME.”
The love in her eyes for him at that moment was something I will never forget.
“SO WHAT ABOUT IT?” she asked her husband , he looked at her and she said, “THE BIKINI DO YOU WANT TO CUT IT NOW, OR DO YOU WANT TO DO IT AT HOME?”
The husband smiled at her and said “AT HOME”.
The wife held it up briefly and the said, “IT HAS NOT ESCAPED BEING DONE, JUST DELAYED IT A BIT”, as she put the last bikini into her handbag.
The husband was by now stuffing all the bits of very CUT UP BIKINIS back into the holdall, they left soon afterwards and although I have not seen them since, they are still very happily married and now have two very beautiful little girls as the wife still sends me a Christmas card every year.
So basically it was this couple that started it, they were the first on two accounts.
1. THEY WERE THE FIRST PEOPLE I HAD EVER HAD TO COUNSEL ABOUT BIKINIS.
2. IT WAS ALSO THE FIRST TIME THAT I SAT AND WATCHED AS THE BIKINIS WERE DESTROYED IN FRONT OFF ME.
I have now dealt with numerous people relating to the affect of what they wear has on other people, and a good deal has been related in particular to BIKINI AND SKIMPY SWIMSUIT wearing.
I now also counsel girls and women to do with how society perceives you by what clothes you wear and/or how you wear them.
By:
Firmmindedwoman
Age:
41-45
,
Female
