Calling All Heads Of Households!!

Continued. To be a good hoh i believe number 1 is you have to completely love your gf/wife. Without love there is nothing. Also trust. And respect. Just because she is my submissive doesn't mean she is not my equal. I love cherish and respect her. We have been in a dd relationship for over 3 years but the past 6 months she when she decided to turn yourself over to me and submit to me completely giving me total control and our relationship has never been better.and last a good sub to please her hoh has to love her hoh respect him and do everything to take care of him.

Honestly my gf decided for me to be hoh. Before then i had spanked her but it was just for sexual purpose. But now she chose to give me complete control. It has brought us closer together. Also just because i have complete control as hoh there are things that we decide on together. We are still equal when it comes to our relationship. When she does bad though she gets grounded and/or spanking. As far as the comment about kissing my feet, i would never ask her to do that unless joking. Now after a long hard day working having her take my shoes off and rubbing my feet, yes but that is what she does because she loves me and takes care of me. Same as if she had a long hard day i would take care of her because i love her. A true dd relationship like we have is because we love each other and i want her to do the best she can. As far as dd relationship better than normal relationship, no. Because i don't believe anyone is better than anyone else. But i do believe that true dd partners respect each other more. I respect my baby boo alot more now because her giving me complete control is so she can be a better person. Also to have is great relationship you have to have trust. In order for her to give me complete control she is trusting me that i would not make her do something that would be wrong. And in order for her to willingly bend over my knee to be spanked she knows that i will not seriously hurt her. Yes spanking does hurt her some but it is not bad hurt. As far as how it has changed our relationship, i hate to admit this because i am ashamed of it, before i was abusive. But now instead of being abusive she gets a spanking. I am no longer abusive towards her. So as for that me being hoh i keep her in line and make her a better person and she making me hoh has made me a better person.

I can't remember where exactly I learnt about DD other than it would have been the internet somewhere. I started fantasising about disciplining and dominating women when I was 13. A few years later when I was a little more knowledgeable about relationships this developed in to wanting a DD relationship. 

I really struggled to meet a woman who wanted the same. I found it impossible to bring the subject up with women if I didn't know it was what they wanted. As a result I did all my searching on spanking websites. The problem with this is they can be quite hard to find and there isn't always that many people active on them. It has taken me years to find and meet someone who wants the same but at long last I have. I met my current girlfriend just under 2 years ago and we have lived a DD lifestyle right from the start. 

I can't say there is anything specific that made me choose the DD lifestyle. It just always felt natural to me that this is how things should be. I believe generally speaking men have an natural urge to dominate and women an urge to submit. These days though I think it gets suppressed in both sexes as we are brought up that we are all the same and all equal. While I have no problem with equal pay and having the right to vote etc, I'm afraid men and women just aren't the same. Our bodies are built differently and our minds work differently. There are things women are better at than men and vice versa. We aren't intended to be able to do everything the opposite sex can, we are intended to compliment each other. I vowed to myself a long time ago I would never be hen pecked and under the thumb. I've seen so may relationships where the man is scared to say no to his wife and let's her get her own way in everything. If anything swayed me to DD I suppose it was that observation.

The two most difficult things for me as a HoH is consistency and disciplining to tears. I think consistency is important but is very easy to fall down on. I sometimes find myself letting little things pass by. It annoys and frustrates me when I think about it afterwards. My consistency is improving, I'm letting less go by unpunished. I've always believed that spanking in DD needs to be to tears. Until recently I struggled with this as my girlfriend has a high pain tolerance. Although I spank her quite hard I struggle to get her to the point of tears. We  had some long discussions last week about this and decided things needed to change. I spanked her on Friday for swearing and although I didn't get tears from her, she was at least apologising and asking for it to stop. The occasions I do get tears from her I find difficult. I hate seeing her in tears but also think it is needed.

I prefer wooden hairbrushes and wooden paddles for the majority of issues. I use the cane for more serious offences. Usually the most effective discipline is which ever one the woman hates the most.

For me the most serious offences are any form of disrespect, dishonesty or any action which is dangerous to herself or others. 

I think a good HoH is a man who is naturally loving and caring. Someone who is essentially a good person at heart. 

All a good submissive wife needs to do in order to please her HoH is abide by the rules he sets and conduct herself in the manner he expects. Oh and keep him well fed lol

"What can a good submissive wife do to please her HoH? (tips and advice please)"
For one, she should kiss His feet, or at least take His shoes off and give Him feet massage when He comes back home at night.

Growing up in the '50s there wasn't the advent of the internet as we have today however there was the media in a variety of forms that laid the the seeds whether it was television shows and/or movies, mainstream magazines and newspaper articles whereby old fashioned discipline and spanking was honored and observed. It was an era where the Man was portrayed as or expected to be in charge as roles were certainly defined before and during this period of time.

I came upon a Men's Magazine when I was about 10yo that had an article entitled "How to Deal With Your Wife" that showed a photo of a wife over her husband's knee and when about 12yo there was a Modern Romance Magazine that had a story written by a wife which was entitled "The Night My Husband Spanked Me" with a subsequent photo to give credence to what we know today as Domestic Discipline.

I always had a sneaking suspicion that an Aunt (on my Father's side) had been spanked by my Uncle and that my Grandmother (on my Mother's side) was spanked by my GrandFather however that is a story for another time.

I met my wife while living in the South in the early 70's while I was a Certified Respiratory Therapist and she was an RN as we were working in the same hospital. She was a Southern Belle born and raised in a loving Southern Baptist family who mutually knew the value of old fashioned discipline as the Rod was not spared when necessary.

It was during an initial meeting and dinner with her family whereby a younger sister was threatened by her Father to be taken into the bedroom for a private discussion if her attitude didn't change that made for a great segue later that night when we were alone while then sharing my views regarding the roles of a Husband/Wife and discipline and spanking within the family unit.

We were married in 1976 and even though she got a few playful spankings prior to that she found out what a good old fashioned over the knee disciplinary spanking was all about from her Husband on our Honeymoon which you can find under my stories "Honeymoon Spanking".

We were equals, per se, while at the same time she appreciated the fact I wouldn't hesitate taking charge when necessary as a loving Husband, Head of Household and Father while the consquences were well understood for direct disobedience, disrespect and/or dishonesty. She was a loving Submissive Wife and Mother with an "Attitude of Gratitude and Servitude during our 30+ years of marriage before her passing 5 years ago.

I will go back and look at some of the specific questions and answer after a bit while hope in the mean time have answered a few up to this point in time.

Warm Regards
Lonny

I hope some HoH will answer some of these soon! I am always interested in how they think about things and their reasoning. :o)

Gentlemen - you don't have to answer all the questions - just those you find interesting!