No Spanking Doesn't Mean No Control

Yes he's a good man. He's a taxi driver and yesterday he had to pick up a mini bus full of young women who had all had too much to drink. I said "well at least you know how to handle them" and he said " being married to you gave me a few years of training.." lol, we both like to give as good as we get from time to time although luckily he never lets me get that bad. It's good that he knows how to handle me with and without spanking. I am very grateful for that :o)

TiH is the best at bringing that out I think, I never felt this close to my husband not even when we were newly weds :o)

I never actually see it at the time, it's always afterwards when I realise why his motives were what they were. :o)

You are not alone there.

It sounds ridiculous because I am a grown woman but it is a safety thing, I just love knowing that I have that support :o)

great minds think alike :o)

I needed to hear that last sentence, sometimes I get so down on myself and take it all out on him. My husband really is an amazing person and he knows exactly what i need. I am so very lucky even with the dodgy knee :o)

Well, when you are dealing with a painful knee or other similar challenge, it's sometimes hard to have perspective and appreciate the many more important blessings we have in life. That said, it has always appeared that you are blessed beyond measure, to have a wise loving husband willing and able to take on the responsibility of looking after his wife and children. Lucky girl, dodgy knee or not.

I am... thankyou :o)

I guess you would say we had a TiH marriage without spanking before but I feel much better knowing that my husband has the authority to spank (or not spank) however he sees fit :o)

Sorry for the misunderstanding.
I wanted to say that others have a TiH relationship without spanking. It works for them. Why shouldn't it work for you also - even if you are just taking a break from spanking.

Some think that spanking is an absolute necessity for TiH and become nervous if they can't spank for some reason. I just wanted to make clear that this shouldn't be a problem. If the relationship is okay then it will neither change nor it will break up because of this.
And also if the husband is a real Hoh he will not loose his position and will not loose the respect from his partner, just because of some days spanking abstinence.

But however I can understand that you feel better if your husband can show his authority. No matter
if he does it or not.

For me spanking is also a way for me to destress, I don't have anything else that works as well as that at present, aerobics but of course I can't do that when me knee is bad either. I normally get alot of maintenace spanks, not so much for serious discipline. I don't like it when I know I can't be spanked but of course I know it's not the end of the world and my relationship will not fall appart because of that :o)

Thanks :o)

Thank you very much I will look into that. I'm extremely interested in natural health. I also take very high strength fish oils, turmeric and ginger every day. I would absolutely love to ditch my pain meds completely and I haven't heard of Wobenzyme N before :o)

I'm taking Wobenzyme N also. It is very different from NSAIDs. NSAIDs provide symptomatic short term pain relief but also degrade cartilage and diminish glutathione, a powerful antioxidant synthesized in the human body and very key to our health. The systemic enzymes in formulas like Wobenzym will actually work healing in the body.

Ok thank you CC :o)

The Germans, who are very good at science and natural health in particular, pioneered the use of systemic enzymes and complied a great body of research showing their effectiveness.

Just have to say CC is absolutely right!

And Alex (thought cc was the original poster)

I have googled this wobenzyme N and discovered that it is actually mostly bromalain and papain and very small quantatiers of other fruit enzymes, it is very expensive and wondered if I could just take bromalain instead or do you really need to take them together to get the proper effect?

You could try the Bromelain, but I have found this formula to be worth the price. Not that expensive on Amazon.

My Wobenzym N bottle says its largest ingredient is pancreatin at 300mg. Extra trypsin, which comes from pancreatin, is also included. Pancreatin is considered a powerful systemic enzyme.

I believe Wobenzym is the enzyme product with the most scientific validation. It also has the advantage of being enteric coated. I bought the 800 tablet size to economize after trying it with a 100 tablet bottle.

I understand bromelain to also have good scientific backing as an anti-inflammatory. If you don't think you can afford Wobenzym, bromelain could be worth a try. You could also throw in papain and / or pancreatin pills if you wanted. Start out one new pill at a time. If you have constipation, taking enzymes on an empty stomach should resolve that.

fuzzy.... yeah lol :o)

Thanks :o)

Thanks :o)

Well he just has a no spanking rule about this, probably because of the risk of me kicking my legs and doing further damage I'm not sure but I doubt he will change his stance in a hurry.

Thank you, my husband and I are always like that, innuendo flies about all the time :o)