So Fed Up With This Mess, & Having No Help To Clean It Up!

Instead of putting his clothes out put him out...There is no way on this earth i am going to clean up after a grown man...you made him this way by allowing him to get away with it from the very first! A marriage is a two way thing...if he isnt considerate enough to help then find someone who will because there are plenty of men out in the world who would be willing to do their fair share..its not like you are asking to clean up your ****...so tell him if he doesnt want to do it then tell him you want a divorce!

HELP IS ON THE WAY:

IN STALL A BASKETBALL HOOP OVER A GARBAGE CAN SO THAT HE WILL THROW HIS BEER CANS INTO IT. TELL HIM YOU ARE NO LONGER PICKING UP AFTER HIM--PUT OUT A HAMPER OR CLOTHES BASKET AND TELL HIM TO PUT ALL OF HIS DIRTY CLOTHES IN IT AS YOU WILL NO LONGER CLEAN ANYTHING NO IN THE HAMPER. IF HE REFUSES TO DO THIS, JUST BAG ALL OF HIS CLOTHES AND OTHER STUFF ON THE FLOORS AND PUT THEM IN THE TRASH.

Oh my god... I know exactly how you feel. My husband is the messiest, dirtiest person I have ever met. He'd probably sit in his own poop if you let him. I am constantly cleaning up after him. Beer bottles, glasses (he uses a new glass every time he drinks something), dishes with half eaten food, garbage, cigarette butts, ashes, candy wrappers... you name it. And as soon as I clean it up, I turn around and its a mess again. I dread days that he stays home "sick" because it means that when I get home from work it looks like a tornado hit the house. he is able to make the mess, make himself food... but nothing gets cleaned up. He will leave the half eaten pot of soup out on the stove all day until the noodles soak up all the broth and it's just cold mush. Yes, I understand that you may be ill... but come on! When I am ill I still clean up after myself. I don't leave it there for someone else to come home to. He changed the bed the other day while he was sick at home and he threw the sheets on the floor behind the couch and left them there all day while he sat on his bum all day. Even though the laundry room is 2 feet away from where he sits. Then they get pissed at you when you get pissed.... We have no kids, thank god... I am already cleaning up after what seems like 4 of them. He is sick at home again today... I dread getting back. The best of all is when I do the house cleaning and clean up the garbage he leaves all overthe coffee table. There's so much junk... and if you throw away a ziplock bag that looks like garbage to you... but happens to have a crumb of pot left in it, he gets mad and says that you are wasting money. Says that you are not "helping" him, and that you should put his bags away instead of throwing them out... CLEAN UP YOUR FREAKING MESS!!!!

Oh you poor thing. My husband's the only thing keeping my head above the garbage. You are very much like me dear, same age range, same issues(beer cans, clothes, he gets home and throws his boots in separate directions across the room, but he helps me with the big stuff) If it makes you feel any better, at least it's just you two. I'm dealing with a snarky mother in law too busy to bother, a father in law declining in health,two kids that aren't mine but I wind up taking care of anyway, and a pair of useless garbage spewing sphicters that happen to be the parents. The two of us are the only ones that care enough to try to clean. If I were you, I would do all I can to nip your husband's bullshit in the bud. It's either that, or thwart him creatively, like hampers in strategic spots, extra trash cans, and set one day a week aside to just pick up the place, and one a few days later to sanitize. Create a system that works for you, and raise hell if he doesn't stick to it. If there's a place for everything, there's no reason everything shouldn't be in it's place.

He says he doesn't like to live in a cluttered home, so even though he thinks it's a woman's job to clean up his rubbish, do you think that if you refused to do it he'd get so desperate to see it free of clutter that he'd clean it himself?...Or would he be happy to just let his beer cans pile up on the floor and still not help you?