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I Can't Take It Anymore

I am on the verge of looking for an affair.  I don't want to but I can't go much longer.  I live in a mid size town in Northern Michigan and have a couple of prospects but up to now I have not wanted to do anything but I'm to the point where I need to.  What should I do?

ChefP ChefP 41-45 12 Responses May 12, 2010

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Isn't that illegal in most countries, as well as being kind of repugnant? Maybe she couldn't sue you but she could cut them off while you're asleep, and you'd probably deserve it.

"You grow a pair and you rape your wife no matter how unwilling she is. You bet she'll god damn love you. Take control."<br />
It doesn't work that way. If your partner doesn't love you back the way you need it, you'll still feel empty and unsatisfied. That's why when refusers give in and give you pity sex it doesn't solve the problem either. Best case scenario, you'll just be back to square one with the same problem.

Don't you dare cheat on her bro.<br />
You grow a pair and you rape your wife no matter how unwilling she is. You bet she'll god damn love you. Take control.<br />
Not like she could sue you anyway, she's your ****** wife.

Cheating is the kind of thing that destroys people's lives. You have to ask yourself if it is worth it. Does she know about the problem?

I think it's cruel to tell her - just get on and do it, but cover your tracks. Who's going to feel better if she knows - not her, that's for sure.

I'm right there with you but I use my overractive imagination to mentally bang people...my mind is the most amazing thing, I can see, feel, smell fantasies...as much as my husband deserves to be cheated on, I can't do it...we don't have kids together so if it gets really bad, I'll just divorce him and move to California

" OK, let me say this clearly...divorce is NOT in the cards and cannot be in the cards. " <br />
That is weird. Why is that?

If everything is perfect except the sex....surely you can honestly talk about it and come up with a solution you both agree on. There is a huge difference in sex and Love.

Put it on the table. Explain that you do not have anyone in particular in mind, but that simply the frustration has reached a peak where you are going to seriously begin resenting her, thus melting all the other 'good things' about your relationship. If she acts positively about it you may be in the rare situation where an 'open marriage' might actually work. The problem will come if you fall in love with one of your lovers and that destroys the other good things in your marriage. *shrug* Personally that, I think, is the 'gamble' your 'refuser' has to take on. After all, you aren't rejecting him/her they are rejecting you.

OK, let me say this clearly...divorce is NOT in the cards and cannot be in the cards. She does NOT treat me like crap. We DO have a great relationship otherwise. I truly understand her side also. She has no sex drive. I'm not looking for a mercy **** from her and do not want to have her doing something she just does not desire. I do have wonder if my answer lies in a litte something-something on the side.

I know how u feel...I'm not good at advice cause I myself am on the verge too. I do feel for you though, I hope u make a decison that will be okay. Just wanted u to know I'm in the same boat.

Well i would talk to your husband first or wife and explain how u feel. If they dont care get out and do ya thing.