Why Do People Marry Opposites?

I never could understand the concept of people marrying the opposite of themselves. You would think that you would want to find someone with similar tastes, likes, and dislikes. How did I marry someone so opposite from what I desire? My husband is so different than what I thought I would marry. I have a very strong sex drive, and want to love all over my husband. He, on the other hand, has no desire, except maybe to get himself off occationally. I don't get it. I'm reading so many stories from people with the same problem. What makes us marry someone so different? Any ideas?
one4two one4two
46-50, F
3 Responses Jul 23, 2010

miss you!!!!

I've heard we marry our parents. We marry the personalty of the parent who left us wanting. I may not be explaining myself clearly and I apologize. But if you are male, and your mother was "strong" you tend to marry a "strong female" Or if you are female and your father was "passive" you tend to marry a passive man. I can only speak for myself...I found that I married someone very similar in personalty to my father. Very intellectual, very quiet, and introverted. My husband has a wicked sense of humor, again...very similar to Dad. In marrying them, you hope to receive the love you may not have gotten from that parent as a child. Its a theory at least.

I do not think we set out to marry somebody who is so different. I just think that different is interesting so it catches our attention. <br />
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Regardless, I do not see different to necessarily be a problem nor should it be a problem. At the end of the day, one of us has a penis and the other has a vagina. You can not get much more different than that!