Fact: Sexless Marriage Is Grounds for Divorce(exerpt from Yahoo Answers):
"It's called either alienation of affection or constructive abandonment, depending on your state...Simply turning down sex on occasion is not alienation or abandonment. But a “sexless marriage” is different, one in which there is no sexual activity to speak of for an extended period of time, despite clear requests, and usually involves one person holding sex over the other person as a weapon....The court may ask for proof that you have been to counseling for the issue, or that the spouse had refused to go to counseling for it. There is a legal precedent and understanding that when you get married, there will be sex".
(my personal response):
And there I was, willingly staying in the marriage for 18 years because I loved him and wanted him to get well. Sure he loved me in his own ways, but sex and sexual intimacy were not shown in those ways after we got married. Therapy, medication and my devotion to support and encourage him were available but he refused to seek treatment. I can only blame myself for staying miserable and frustrated for so long. At least the law was on my side even though I didn't know it back then.
And there I was, thinking that him denying me of such a basic human need was just cruel and selfish.
UPDATE: This title used to be entitled "Fact: SM is Illegal", but that was based on wrong information on the web.
ISELFLOVE 41-45, F 28 Responses 2 Jul 23, 2010