Sexless And Unhappy

Ok where to begin. I have been married for 5 years. In the beginning we had sex all the time. Its was great. 3 years ago we had a baby girl. Sex became a thing of he past. I don't think I am a sex craved person. I don't think I am asking too much to have sex twice a week....hell I would even settle for once a week. Right now we are having sex maybe every other month. I find myself so upset and resentful that I blow up at him. He says things will change, he wants to have sex. I stupidly believe him. We have great sex two or three times in a row, then we are back to having it every other month. I am so tired of this. I am 30 years old and I don't want to be living my life in a sexless marriage. He recently was diagnosed and is taking medication for depression. He seems like a much happier person, but we are still not having sex. He is completely content, holding hands, snuggling in bed...and nothing more. He is making me feel so bad about myself. Is there something wrong with me? Are my breasts not big enough anymore? Are they too big now? I don't know, I just don't know what to do anymore. Any help in this matter would be greatly appreciated. I find myself soo resentful that he is the one making all the decisions as to when we have sex, that when he wants to have sex that every other month, I tell him no thanks. I hate us only having sex when HE wants to. So I tell him no, then that leaves me with not having sex for a couple more months. I am at a loss. I just want to be in a relationship where we have sex on a normal basis. Is that too much to ask? I keep thinking why are we married? We are more like friends than husband and wife. help!
sexless101 sexless101
36-40, F
2 Responses Aug 1, 2010

Rather than write it all out again, I will just give you this link...<br />
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<a href="http://www.experienceproject.com/uw.php?e=738714" target="ep_blank">EP Link</a>

"Is there something wrong with me?" <br />
That's usually our first port of call on this journey. <br />
And the answer is "No"<br />
But there is something wrong with "us". <br />
And only "us" can fix it. <br />
"Us" being you and him, together.<br />
You alone cannot fix "us". He alone can not fix "us" and unfortunately even the two parties together cannot fix "us" sometimes. <br />
But if you work together you are in with a shot.<br />
Read, indeed DEVOUR, the stories in this ILIASM group. And good luck.