Do You Remember Me?
I have been married for almost sixteen years, and I have one child -- a teenager. A few years ago, my husband left our home, for, he was "tired of me." He left for six months, and then returned. He slept on the couch for a few months, coming home late at night, not calling, much less talking to me...he just did his own thing. After a while, we began talking a lot, and doing things together with our teenager. My husband returned to our bedroom, where he sleeps on the edge of the bed. He gets upset if I touch him, kiss him goodnight, etc..He has told me that I am behaving "like a guy." I was very hurt by that remark. This has been going on for years -- he says "goodnight" and I say "goodnight" and that is it until morning. If I leave for work first, I will kiss him goodbye, but it is like kissing a rock -- there is no response. I am lonely, hurt, and I feel like I am a horrible person because I want to be intimate with my husband, but he is "not sure" he wants to be intimate with me. I love my husband, Ihave apologized for anything that I might have done, I have forgiven him for his behavior (leaving, etc.), but I still get no emotional response/connection. Any advice?