A Question Of Fidelity

I posted a question about having an affair. Would you mind answering it?

1) Best reason to
2) Best reason not to

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Thanks!

~ Ima
imathinkin imathinkin
51-55, F
12 Responses Aug 11, 2010

I did this. And if you are anything like me, it is like this:<br />
1. The most fun I ever had in my life.<br />
2. The most long-lasting guilt and shame ever.

1- To feel alive and wanted, the rush of being naughty, to feel the warm embrace of another person's flesh against yours, to feel that tension and release that only sex can bring.<br />
2- Dont want to be labeled a ***** for the rest of my life. It dosent matter that the wife has rejected,abused, belittled, shut me out me for years. I will for ever have the label of a ***** that cheated on his wife.

1) Best reason to: <br />
You will not know unless you try, there might not be any.<br />
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2) Best reason not to:<br />
Cheaters are cheaters. Just think about Bill Clinton after he got caught, lost a lot of credibility and respect. If you are respected and loved by people, you will hurt them too when it is discovered. Most get caught.

1. It provides you will that feeling again that only romatic love and sex do<br />
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2, That feeling from #1 can end and leave you heartbroken since usually those affairs do not last<br />
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PS--I wish I could have just done wham bam thank ya man--but no, I had to have a full blowm relationship with someone I can't have.

1) To re-join the human race.<br />
2) Sinking down to the refusers level by breaking vows.

1. great sex with plenty of *******<br />
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2. no sex no *******

1. To validate your own ego<br />
2. Consequences of getting sprung<br />
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Tread your own path.

Answers:<br />
1) To feel wanted and to also feel good about yourslelf<br />
2) Not feeling so good about youself

Can forfil physical needs and make you feel a desirable woman and depending on how you feel may help self esteem.Can some times boost sexual relationships in marriages.<br />
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In my experinece an affair gave me all the above apart from boost in relationship.I was also still waking up alone and lacking emotinal intamacy and some one to cuddle and kiss.It did not fill the void in my heart that yearned for love and left me feeling more empty than I was.I also felt I was just being used and this did not help my self esteem.<br />
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I feel it sad people feel the need to have affairs and if a marriage has reached this point is it not best to move on.Call me narrow minded but is not any relationship about trust and loyalty and love<br />
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We all need to be loved and feel valued in life.What ever you decide to do I hope it works out for you and you find happiness.If you think an affair can give you this,then good luck.<br />
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All the best

No, Wakin, there's a link there.

haha nice, but there was a link...the question was...what's the best reason and worst reason for having an affair, which made me laugh really hard when I read your answers!!!

1) because it's wonderful, makes you feel alive, great sex, adrenalin rushes, butterflies, etc, etc.<br />
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2) because you might get caught!