Not Any Longer!

Since i have been on this site, more people have had the same experience, than any other of the my experiences .... living in a sexless marriage.

I do not live like that any longer.

But .... just because i have not had "any" in awhile....Doesn't mean i'm in a hurry to lay down with the first Tom, **** or Henry! I am not hard up....

My post clearly asked... Where is the tenderness?.... more important than any.... release i could have. *smile*

So, if your marriages have the tenderness but not the sex.... be happy, thankful for someone who loves you!
MorningBreeze MorningBreeze
56-60, F
11 Responses Aug 13, 2010

Hi Dockedwards, yeah, the relationships start out all hot and bothered but... when they are done playing... they move on. <br />
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They go play elsewhere AND then.... i will not share soooo I lived in a sexless marriage... wow!<br />
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I am single now and still live a life of no sex... lol.. messed up thing ain't it! lol...

my story is similar

Pm4pi, yeah, i wasn't heard much neither. there was so much wrong with my marriage.<br />
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Tahoebaby, huh... ok, i will try to deal with it all, even my dumb rationalizations. :~/ so at the age of 36-40 how do you know what i'll be feeling at the ripe age of 79?<br />
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Aprilriver, it's nice to hear that you love your man! yes, there is worse things than "doing without it". i wish you the best in your marriage. take care

I agree with ripduff it isn't just the sex that I miss, IT is the touch of that man that I love. I miss him, we are right next to each other but I feel so far away. The sex doesn't matter to me as much as the lost intimacy. I don't want anyone else no matter how many ******* they can give me. I love my husband and i am not ready to give up on him yet.

ripduff, yup, just to be held, i understand.

meerin, *smile* you know when a person gets at a certain age, personally speaking, there are things more important than "getting off" .... i was just trying to say, the hand holding.... heck, i don't know what i'm saying. the more i think on this... i do see the light. <br />
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well i quess i have done without so long.... i'm jaded and conditioned. or maybe, i forgot what i was missing. a man has to hold my heart before i let him hold my body. :~).... hey... there are reasons ... i am a bit twisted when it comes to sex<br />
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Thanks for sharing ( all of you!) your opinions/thoughts.... it helps alot

I think we posted about the same time, so just read the first part of my reply.

Good for you for holding out for what you truly want. <br />
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But I disagree that we should be happy if our spouses are nice to us while they ignore our needs and wants.

I really know what both of you are saying. but on the other hand, what if that person "couldn't" but still showed the tenderness.....ok.... i'm trying to bullcrap my way out of this.<br />
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Princess and another pricess... :~).... i have felt the rejection, so much so, he told me No! i lost something then but .... if, if i could of felt just a tad of tenderness.... huh... it doesn't work does it. If someone can give you tenderness then surely they can find a way to love you, to feed you. OK....<br />
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I stand corrected. But i don't want a man just for sex neither.

If he loved me he would address the pain that his rejection causes.

Uh...NO!!!<br />
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If you regret not settling for "almost" that's your deal. I wouldn't recommend it to a soul. <br />
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Princess Worthmorethanalmost