Leap Of Faith...

Amazing! Thanks Creamy!

Dear sugarface13,



I wish you much happiness and success and congratulations on your bravery. I was married at 17 in a tiny mountain town, to an older man. it was a loveless and sexless marriage and i was there as a show wife and to cook and clean and gut fish and be the occasional punching or slapping bag for him. After 7+ years i finally left and moved to a new city. I got part time waitressing work and lived in a bad part of town but survived and found men who i was attracted to and finally got a great sex life and feelings of self worth. I'm a recent new single Mommy and that has added to my financial woes but i am happy, so much happier than before and I'm coping OK. I'm so glad i left and kicked myself for not doing it sooner. Best of luck, sweetie!

I wish you the best as well...

Good luck sugarface! I hope to be following your path soon.

Good that you have this great outlook now. A "bed warmer" is a "bed warmer"....and sometimes that's all any of us really need...RIGHT?....GOOD LUCK dearest

Exactly! I thought the same thing. The universe is giving me signs that this could be "IT".



She did say she does not want to get "married." She said she is currently content with her life and has been this way for a very long time. She has her own business and all that. I'm sure she has a "bed warmer" somewhere. lol



I do notice, however, that having a very successful career is almost as equally important to me as having a mate. So, I really get where she's coming from.

That's amazing for sure....LIsten to her and your heart of course. I wonder if she'd met someone new...perhaps another male or even another female to be feeing so right about everythings...

Yes - the Universe shares with us at amazing moments!! Good luck in your new life!!!

Thank you all soooo much! I am going to visit these places first thing tomorrow morning! I am definitely hopeful that things will turn out fine!



Guess what? I met a lady at the airport, she seemed well to do. We just got talking about where I was coming from and where I was going. I believe she may have been like 20 years older than me. She left her sexless/lifeless marriage and commended me for doing the same now. She told me that I would be happier and life would be sooo much better than being miserable.



How's that for a sign? Amazing!

In some places there are women's centers that have grants to help women in your situation. For example, I am in NJ and there is a women's center through the National Council of Jewish Women (NCJW) that does not just help Jewish women...they have a grant to help "displaced homemakers" who are recently divorced or widowed to find jobs. You may want to see if there is something like that where you are going. Good for you getting out of a situation that's not working and good luck.

Register for social security payments - I am an Aussie so our system is different, but there must be similar assistance where you are going. When you register, ask the agency to refer you to job agencies.



Money isn't everything - it would be good to have back up resources, but it isn't essential. If necessary, borrow from your family on the promise of repayment once you get established.



And every BEST wish for your future happiness. You are brave, courageous and bold - you deserve to have a real life with real happiness. . . . {{{Hugs}}}

Good Luck !!! Totally agree with GaDad!!

In major cities in the U.S., you'll usually find an agency that does help unemployed people. Sometimes, it's the state Department of Labor, other times it's a separate agency. Talk to the chamber of commerce in your new city, they traditionally have a relocation packet that they can send you. Also, make contacts before you go. Be sure to leave with approximately 6 months of living expenses; it can take a while to put down new roots. Don't be afraid to work a temp job, a lot of employers use this as a 'test drive' to see if you'd work out as a long-term employee.

Thank you so much! I'll do just what you said...

Call the social services office before you get there and ask what the requirements are. You may have to have proof such as a bill in your name being delivered to your address. See if they will accept a written letter from the friend you're staying with as proof of when you moved in, or if you have a bill you pay online (like cell phone or bank statement), you could go ahead and have them send a paper bill to your new address to get a head start.



Best of luck!