Stay Gone Or Go Back?This is my story:
I met my husband at work when I was 21 and he was 40. We dated for 4 years before we got married and now have been married for 3 years. In the beginning everything was great. We were and remained best friends through out our marriage. We spent a lot of time together and we both were very interested in each other and enjoyed each others company. Around the time we were getting married I noticed our sex life dropping. I chalked it up to a lot of stress on his part. We recently built our house and he was working a lot of hours.
Over the past couple years I have tried to make excuses for his lack of interest in me but I started to drift away from him because I was starting to feel depressed and angry. Every time I would try to talk to him about it he would get angry and say I was nagging and that I was making things worse by bringing up the subject. I am 29 now and attractive and I know I could find someone else if I wanted to. We very seldom got into fights but it has just gotten so much worse and every month that goes by I get more upset and lonely. We started living together as great friends and what I felt like was roommates. We probably only had sex about 6 times a year. It also seemed as though he didn’t ever want to go out unless there was a group with us. About a year and a half ago I wrote him a long letter telling him everything I was feeling. I basically said how I am lonely, depressed, and sad and that if things don’t change it is going to ruin our marriage. He of course cried and said he doesn’t want me to leave and that we would work on it like he always does. Well that was a year and a half ago and still no change.
Well I finally got the nerve to file for divorce about 2 months ago. He cried and begged for me to stay and he kept saying that he knew why I was leaving but that he felt he showed his love through financially supporting me. I don’t see how this would be enough for any woman. My dilemma now is he is very close with my sister and she constantly tells me he cries and wants to make it work and he would try really heard. I feel so horrible and I know he is hurting but am I having this urge to go back because I really miss him or do I just feel sorry for him? Deep down I don't see him changing.