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How To Decrease Your Libido

[EDIT - please note that, in the context of this group, this was posted this in jest]

One soution to living in a sexless marriage is to decrease the normal person's sex drive.

[I took some liberties with the original post] <-- this means I EDITED the original article

For individuals struggling with living in a sexless marriage, the libido can be both a temptress and a demon. In fact, living in a sexless marriage is considered one of the most difficult choices we can make because sex itself is not destructive and yet living in the relationship is. It can sometimes be a personal struggle that can strain and even ruin relationships. If you have a normal libido and you find that is creating problems personally or in your sexual relationships, you can do something about it.

Step 1
Limit your exposure to elements that arouse your sex drive. This includes *********** and even sexually suggestive materials, including magazines, pictures and movies. Avoid ***** clubs or venues featuring scantily-clad women or men.

Step 2 <-- I totally disagree with this
Exercise daily. This releases sex hormones through activity, rather than letting it build up and push your libido into overdrive. Channeling your sex drive into safe outlets, such as aerobic exercise and/or lifting weights, will make managing your libido easier.

Step 3
Undergo sex therapy or sex counseling. These services, while expensive, can help you get to the root of your sexual urges and teach you how to control your libido. Depending on your health insurance, you might also be able to get this paid for by your insurance provider.

Step 4
Take herbal supplements such as rehmannia or ligustrum. These are ancient Chinese remedies some believe suppress the libido. They can be found in most Chinese herb shops. Another supplement, named after its sex-drive-killing effects, is chaste tree berry.

Step 5
Ask your doctor if hormone treatments are an option for you. For individuals whose libido struggles are caused by excessive levels of sex hormones, certain therapies and treatments may be able to better regulate your hormones, thus allowing you to enjoy a manageable libido.

Foods to Decrease the Libido

Mismatched libidos are often a point of contention between partners in relationships. Many couples are reluctant to speak with doctors or therapists about differences in their sex drives, but there is a way to help the issue at home. There are certain foods that are known to decrease the libido, and are advised for those who feel that their drive is too high, and contraindicated for those who feel their drive is not high enough.

Carbohydrates and Fats
Carbohydrates and fats are heavy foods that have been proven to lead to arteriosclerosis, or hardening of the arteries. Hardening of the arteries is a condition in which plaque builds up along the walls of the arteries, which decreases their elasticity, increasing blood pressure as a result, and decreasing blood flow to parts of the body. Sufficient blood flow to the genitals is a very important component of sexual desire. An excess of blood is necessary to inflame the genitals for sexual excitement and activity, so a decrease in the flow of blood would prevent the desired stimulus, sensitivity and response.

Fried Foods
While discouraged in any healthy diet, fried foods are also known for decreasing the libido. Fried foods contain trans fats, also known as hydrogenated fats. Hydrogenated fats have been found to decrease testosterone, which is vital for normal libido and sexual function. Testosterone serves many purposes in the body, one of which is to prompt sexual desire and regulate sex cell production. Not only do hydrogenated fats reduce testosterone, but they have been proven to increase the number of abnormal ***** in animals.

While not necessarily a food, alcohol is still one of the primary substances known to decrease libido. It is also a surprising entry on the list for many people. Despite the number of people who engage in sexual activity as a result of alcohol, that activity is more due to decreased inhibitions than increased libido. Alcohol is known to decrease sensitivity and to lower sexual response, and so can be a useful tool in decreasing libido when desired, but should be avoided if desire levels are already low.

Also not a food, but part of a person's daily intake, certain medications are also known to decrease libido. Many common drugs have the unfortunate side effect of interfering with the normal levels of sexual desire in the patient in question, due to a variety of factors. The most common culprits for this are antidepressants, blood pressure medications, diuretics and some medications that treat ulcers. While these wouldn't be used to intentionally decrease a person's libido, it is important to be aware of the effect of medication for someone that is trying to avoid substances that lower their level of desire further.

Herbs to decrease libido

Herbal medicine has become very popular among those who are tired of constantly taking prescription medication made in a lab. The feeling that herbal supplements are safer and better for you may be the reasoning behind this increase in herbal popularity.

Simply put, our libido is our sex drive. There are supplements on the market today that claim to increase libido in both males and females, but there are also supplements that can decrease sex drive. According to Dr. Beatrix Roemheld-Hamm of the University of Medicine and Dentistry of New Jersey-Robert Wood Johnson Medical School, chasteberry has been used for years for the treatment of certain gynecological conditions and breast health issues. However, in men, it is said to decrease libido by decreasing prolactin levels when administered in small doses. In the days of old, chasteberry was used by clergymen who had taken an oath of celibacy, to keep sexual urges to a minimum. Dr. Roemheld-Hamm states that not enough clinical evidence is available to prove that chasteberry does or does not decrease libido, despite reports by patients that it does.

Hops and Valerian
Hops is an additive to beer that gives it its bitter flavor but can aid in more than just intoxication. Hops can cause vaginal dryness in women. In men, hops makes it very difficult to maintain an erection. Valerian is used to calm the nervous system in the event of pain and aid in sleep. It also has been used to treat symptoms of premenstrual syndrome, but has been reported to lower libido in women. There is currently no scientific information to back this claim, but it has been reported by users of valerian that they have experienced decreased sex drive while using this herbal remedy.Rehmannia,

Ligistrum and Skullcap
Rehmannia is a Chinese herb that is used in people with extremely high libido. In the same family is ligistrum, which is also a libido suppresant. Both herbs work on the nervous system to make arousal more difficult for the patient. Skullcap also works on the nervous system, but it also lowers blood pressure, making erections difficult to obtain and maintain in men.

Oldandgone Oldandgone 41-45 12 Responses Aug 19, 2010

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So much trouble to bend and remold... The easier way to find normal partner with healthy sex drive instead of destroy your own health...

this is is HILARIOUS! i'm able to laugh now but about 3 yrs ago this idea hit me, in the context of your post. I thought, well, that's brilliant i'll just reduce MY drive! i am an extremely natural non-drug or antibiotic taking person. i don't eat gmo's, i go through the trouble of buying local honey, etc etc. You get the imagine me, miss organic, going to my family dr asking him for Paxil (i had done the research). i lied & said I'm depressed. i have never in my life taken anything like this. i WAS depressed but not that kind. i was completely gutted that i was not wanted or desired by my husband i decided to take anti-depressants to combat my drive. i actually even threw it in his face, he never stopped me from taking them. after a few months i stopped taking them (although it DID work). that was a waterloo moment in the relationship, like wow, you care that little for me, you would let me take something you know i don't advocate so maybe selfishly you wouldn't be bothered by my advances? well needless to say i had an emotional affair & i still talk to him occasionally. it keeps me from going crazy because unfortunately i will be staying w/ the half gay until the kids are older

A woman ILIASM said that her father tried to castrate himself to reduce his libido so he'd be able to be content in his sexless marriage. I've seen others here asking seriously about what they can do to reduce their libidos.

when i was researching it i actually saw a LOT of people asking this question. i'm sure if you traveled in time & told people 50 years ago that men wouldn't want to have sex in the future they would just look at you like you're crazy!

This would be like a starving person taking an appetite suppressant when there is no food available , to the refused in a sexless marriage .
When you're starving , you're starving .. Hiding the fact won't make you happy or healthy .

base selfish addicts as opposed to loving mature men. Uncontrolled sex drive dethrones a man to his basest levels, worse than animals. the human mind is too prone to heinous pollution and the end of the addiction can lead to brain damage, mental illness, crime and even death

Heck even animals have order and proper time and place for having sex. In fact most of them do it waaay less than humans. Just in seasons a year, and humans do it multiple times per day.

We are the most disgusting race on the planet by far. There is NOTHING natural about having excessive sex drive, it's just perverted, vulgar and hypersexual western propaganda that claims something as silly as that.

One's for sure I won't stop until I find a solution to my high sex drive. Valerian's next in the line to try ;)

I've said that contempt is the battery acid of marriages...

If you are still around, Liberated?
I'm wondering if you have honestly bared your soul to your husband?
You should say something like this:

"You disgust me. I find you and your urges for sexual connection repulsive."
"I have a great deal of contempt for you because you have a sex drive. I never want you to touch me sexually again."

If you haven't done, what's stopping you from honestly sharing your feelings of thorough contempt for a core part of his being?

My husbands disgusting obsessive sex drive killed mine so it canceled mine out,? I'm a total prude now and loving it. He can live happily ever after with his sick mind and right hand. Don't blame me for his perverse depravity, I was perfectly normal when we married but his twisted extreme compulsion turned me off forever and now I feel free. I used to resent it and feel hurt but now I feel it was sort of a strange gift. Freedom from sex is liberating. My body objects now and then, hence the herb search, but otherwise its quite pleasant.

Just wondering what you consider disgusting and obsessive?

ROLMAO - a piece of wedding cake! So maybe I should marry him and then we'll both be happy with the status quo.

Apparently some folks (refusers) have nerves that connect between their libido and ring finger. It's the metal that suffocates and kills the nerves...

Is that what livestrong is?? I'm horrified - a lot of my students are wearing their wristbands - but it doesn't seem to work, especially on teenaged spaniards!! Hurrah!! xx

Yeah, I guess decreasing your libido might work as a solution to a sexless marriage. Then again, so might committing suicide or pushing your refuser off a cliff.

But going around having sex with anyone, acting hypersexual and not care about fidelity, loyalty or any other moral value is certainly the way to go huh!?

One's life partner is more important than one's selfish lustful sex drive.
Sex may not even be in your life and you can still be 100% happy, but if your soul mate leaves you, you can have all the sex drive you want and you'll still be miserable.

Bottomline message to the hypersexual western culture:
There's more to life than sex!

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TB I had not heard that on but I like it!!

Thanks, WUIT! I was just thinking I was going to need to throw myself under a bus!!! I agree with you about the exercise, I've found it just makes me want to **** more, not less. <br />
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Princess Hasaseriousproblem