Great Sex Life Vanished After Dog Was Put to SleepMy husband put his beloved dog down and went into a full blown depression. He has a history of dysthymia and was taking wellbrutrin and tolerated it well with no sexual side effects. Before the dog died we had occasional arguments, some became heated, most involved his parents and the length of time they would "camp out" at our small home.
Still, our life was good. This is a second marriage for both of us and I have two daughters. he was an excellent step-dad, I recognize that is a very tough role. My children really adored him as their own Father lives a good distance from us and they see him only once/twice a month.
His personality shifted entirely within the month after the dog was put down. he stopped taking his meds and totally withdrew from all of us. However he was extremely angry at me. I was to blame for everything. He does not like his job, he is struggling with financial issues. I would help, however he told me "he can't commit to the marriage"
We sought out counseling and we were asked to discontinue until He could make a commitment to stay or go. He then said he wanted to separate. That was a Month ago. Nothing has happened. In fact he has made some efforts to repair.
Last week, I asked if we could sleep together again ( separate rooms, it has been over 3 months!!!!) He said he wasn't ready, it didn't feel right.
I was pretty shattered. He is on his computer a lot, he has a new myspace, set to private.
I know it doesn't sound hopeful. When I ask him, is there someone else? he absolutely denies it and says I know everything. I should say his 1st marriage was fraught with infidelity and he claims to have learned from that.
Anyone have any insight. I do not want to be divorced again.
amazingwife 46-50, F 15 Responses 3 Dec 29, 2007