The Emasculation Of MenThis is just a little observation that I have had in recent months. My fling with the other woman has opened my eyes to the plight of many of my friends. This, by no means, applies to all men. Just the few that I know who are in sexless marriages.
As a refresher, my sex life was fantastic. My wife began to hang around a new group of friends who were all refusers, and she caught the nasty habit, too.
I have seen men, good, hard working men, reduced to puppets from this sexlessness.
My best friend, was raised by a single mother and worked his way through college to become a very successful man. His wife was and is a refuser. The poor guy, who is very well respected, continually makes belittling jokes about himself about his plight with his wife. I could see his confidence waning slightly, but I think he is getting some outside attention, because he is bouncing back.
Another buddy of mine, who more recently became sexless, has been also reduced to making belittling jokes about himself. He also has adopted a little whine in his voice and flirts with every woman he can find to make his wife jealous to get her attention. She could care less. He has taken up drinking pretty heavily and argues with her. She acts like he is crazy.
A newer friend, who has had his sex life decline since his wife began hanging around the crowd, also became quite neurotic. He became very jealous and his wife also told him that he was crazy. He bends over backwards trying to please his wife and everyone else. He has become very nervous.
Lastly, the one guy that has never been bothered by the situation once told me, "my wife can't cut me off. She doesn't know where I'm getting it." Good for him.
So, as I see it, if this plague is spreading like I think it is, it is very detrimental to men. I see what were once strong and confident men drinking too much, people-pleasing, and losing their self-confidence.
I think the problem runs deep. Every show on TV portrays men as weak and unintelligent. Any strong role models that are out there are constantly hammered in the media. Men and women are really lacking in strong role models.
I hope this post made sense. I'm just trying to connect some ideas I have gotten from my situation.
ManMovingForward 41-45, M 32 Responses 10 Sep 12, 2010